El Brujo Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 The last meetups I went to were proof that the quality of available singles has really declined in the last three years. Maybe it's just me, the fact that I'm busy getting my life together... but I'm starting to think that's a pointless task. It wouldn't surprise me if men in very bad drag pretending to be women started turning up at meetups.
Philosoraptor Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Well maybe the good ones are pairing off in record numbers? Maybe your standards have raised? It wouldn't surprise me if men in very bad drag pretending to be women started turning up at meetups. Well there goes my hobby... 1
dallet66 Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I looked up the singles ones in my area. One is have to b 39 or younger. One 45 or old? So what about me? I'm 42. It's a bit stupid really
Mr_Flay Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I've attended a few meetups for members of the large local forum I frequent. Heck, I've even organised two. A barbecue out in the open, or chilling in a beer hall. The thing is, they're sausage fests, despite the male:female ratio on the forum being roughly 50:50. The few girls who come are mostly attached. And the ones who arent, well, you can hardly talk to them because of a few guys who hog them all the time. But I understand why. Those meetups are organised ostensibly for fun, but everyone secretly hopes they're going to meet someone and flirt. These implicit expectations scare off single girls, who hate non-spontaneous romance more than anything. So yes, even meetups don't work like they used to.
GravityMan Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I don't recommend the "singles" Meetups...or "singles" anything, really. Try themed activity-based Meetups that cater to a interest or passion of yours. True, many people who attend those are attached, but the overall quality of people tends to be better among both the singles and taken...and the attached ones (if you built up a good rapport with them) may have single friends elsewhere that you may eventually meet. That said, Meetup.com in general has exploded in popularity over the past two years. It is often the case that when something gets very popular, the quality of that product or service starts to deteriorate...be it in its members, its features, its usability, its increased "corporate" feel, or in some other way. It happened with YouTube, with Facebook, etc...and it might happen with Meetup. If you live in a decent sized city, chances are that it has one or more websites geared towards fun things to do, see and meet new people. I live in Austin, TX and it has several such sites.
Author El Brujo Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 I'm not knocking meetup.com---it has been GREAT for my self-published authors' group---but yeah, it's like there's some kind of jinx in affixing the word "singles" or "dating" to something... people see it and a little switch flips inside their head and tells them to go into stoopid mode. Mr. Flay, I have one question: was alcohol part of your cookouts? If so, that could have been part of the problem right there. All of my singles potlucks have been non-alcohol, and they've attracted slightly more women than men. I think the thing is that more men will show up to an alcohol event because they can get stoopid for a while and blame it on the sauce... but man oh man, Al K. Hall can sure send your insurance rates through the roof...
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