love1336x Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Before I tell you why I am out 200 bucks because of a broken friendship let me tell you the background story... I met this girl through my brother. They dated for six months, and the relationship didn't work, however we kept on being friends, hell even became best friends! We went clubbing, hang out all the time, when we wasn't at work. She even called me her "little sister"... She’s only child, and I never had a sister either. Only brothers. During that time we hang out she met my male best friend. We have been super close since the age of 13. NEVER ROMANTIC EVER. Sooo we was a trio of fun! lol.. However... things started to become a little sour when they wouldn't invite me to their outings. I started to feel somewhat jealous, why wasn't I included? I mean, when I did outings I would always invite them BOTH. Then excuses started to happen around me when I did want to hang out... "Oh I’m broke... Oh... can't work..." Yet... they would update their Facebook, and say "Having fun time with D at blah blah place" And I am thinking to myself... "Well I guess you are not that broke..." I addressed them my issue why I wasn’t being invited turns out my male bestie had a crush my bestie and he simply wanting to be alone with her. I accepted that. I was okay with that. SHE did not KNOW. She simply thought I was too busy because he would tell her that. To make up for making me feel bad… they wanting to go to e-zoo it’s three day concert… I only paid for one day because I know how tired I will be if I did all three, and that’s no fun. Here when things turn really bad… My bestie suddenly gets a boyfriend out of the blue. She never once talked about him. I didn’t know who he was.. .She told me. “Oh he’s a friend from long time ago… when I am trying to get a man I usually keep him on the low” My best male friend was crushed! But, he would still be her friend. My brother one day comes to me say, “Wow I can’t believe D back with her ex who used to beat her…” I told my brother. “No, that’s her friend…” My brother laughed at me and said, “Believe what you want…” I know this was wrong of me, but instead going to her, I went to her best friend. I ask her, “Hey is D really dating her ex who used to abuse her?” THIS GIRL FLIPPED ON ME SO HARD. “WHY ARE YOU ASKING? IT’S NONE OF YOUR DAMN BUSINESS!” My best friend also flips out on me and tells me how she can't trust me anymore. That I betrayed her in such a way that she cannot ever talk to me again! I text my male best friend how D and I ain't friends anymore... And now for the past week he has not contact me, but is still hanging out with her. (facebook tells it all) Why is he ignoring me? What could she had said to make him turn? I known this boy since i was 13. And this behavior is freaking me out! Did I lose him? I try calling and texting and I get NOTHING! All I can think about is the e-zoo ticket... and how much i paid to only go alone... what is your best advice? I feel to be honest.. if they don't wanna hang out with me... fine, but they should paid for my ticket. They wanting me to go! And truly have no real reason to cut me off like that! Why should I lose 200 dollars because of their silliness? I dunno what's worse losing her over a simple question, or losing him over her? when they only known each other for three months....
Radu Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 To get alone time with some girl you were friends with, he sidetracked you, and lied about you to this girl. I don't think you lost much a friend. Most likely he ended the friendship with you because of what this girl said. Let it be, stop trying to chase down this friendship with you. He will realise that he messed up on his own, or he won't ... who knows, either way the power lies with the one who is being chased. I don't understand the ticket thing, but tbh if it's bought ... i'd go and try to have a good time.
Author love1336x Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 To get alone time with some girl you were friends with, he sidetracked you, and lied about you to this girl. I don't think you lost much a friend. Most likely he ended the friendship with you because of what this girl said. Let it be, stop trying to chase down this friendship with you. He will realise that he messed up on his own, or he won't ... who knows, either way the power lies with the one who is being chased. I don't understand the ticket thing, but tbh if it's bought ... i'd go and try to have a good time. Well I don't want to go alone to this concert! I wanting to go with my friends! 200 bucks to be ALONE? It's unfair. He was my friend first! The fact he sided with her just i dunno... crazy. lol. But, I haven't text him since yesterday... I get the hint.. Sucks.
Radu Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Well I don't want to go alone to this concert! I wanting to go with my friends! 200 bucks to be ALONE? It's unfair. He was my friend first! The fact he sided with her just i dunno... crazy. lol. But, I haven't text him since yesterday... I get the hint.. Sucks. I thought it was a zoo ticket. Oh well, why not sell the ticket ?
Author love1336x Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 I thought it was a zoo ticket. Oh well, why not sell the ticket ? @___@ it's a 200 dollar ticket for one day... I understand I brought it. The concert is in two weeks. My brother already put it on a site where tickets are sold... so far no bite.
CC12 Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 My brother already put it on a site where tickets are sold... so far no bite. Well, hopefully you'll sell them before the concert. If not, try to find another friend to go with you, or go and have a good time by yourself. People go to concerts to have a good time and it's usually very easy to strike up a conversation. You already have one thing in common with them - the same taste in music. It could be fun. Sorry about your friends. That's a bummer. The only advice I have there is to not ask them to reimburse you the $200. They're not responsible for it, and if there's ever a chance for the friendships to recover, this will pretty much ruin it.
Author love1336x Posted August 20, 2013 Author Posted August 20, 2013 Sorry about your friends. That's a bummer. The only advice I have there is to not ask them to reimburse you the $200. They're not responsible for it, and if there's ever a chance for the friendships to recover, this will pretty much ruin it. Well I still think they should because I don't feel her cut off was for a good reason. The plan was for all three of us to hang out. And the fact my friend of 10 years is being stupid for sure hey should paid. Lol. But I won't make them. Chances are I will go alone and try to make the best of it or try to find another friend who have 200 dollars for one day concert.
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