Would you date a guy 20 years your senior?

[kaylan]

I see, so pointing out examples of bigotry, prejudice, discrimination, whatever we want to call it, and why it's wrong, is necessarily "whining?" You are welcome to your opinion, I guess, and thanks for the clarity.

Why derail the thread with that crap? There was no bigotry in this thread. OP asked a question, and you went off on a tangent. As per usual when this topic comes up. Dating preferences are dating preferences.

[tbf]

Would you date a guy 20 years your senior?

 

When I was single, the largest age gap was under 10 years older. So...no.

[mesmerized]

I see, so pointing out examples of bigotry, prejudice, discrimination, whatever we want to call it, and why it's wrong, is necessarily "whining?" You are welcome to your opinion, I guess, and thanks for the clarity.

 

It's interesting how you deny age playing any factor in relationship dynamics when you yourself admit you have learned soo many things with time about controlling/manipulating (or what you like call attracting or seducing) women. Majority of poeple with dating experience know that age plays a big factor in dating dynamics. Does it mean that some streotype is always the case? No. But to go out of your way to come to every thread about it and completely denying something that is apparent to almost everyone with some dating experience is a bit too weird, don't you think?

[nescafe1982]

Would you date a guy 20 years your senior?

 

No.

 

 

Yep, although he'd be in his early 40s and most men would see a woman 20yrs their junior at my age as merely a sexual plaything.

 

And this is why. I know there are probably exceptions out there (there always are). But they don't disprove the rule.

 

There have been a couple times in my life than significantly older men flirted with me or asked me out. I never got the sense that they valued me as something more than a physical charm. Men that pursue women that much younger than them usually (not always, but usually) do so because they have issues with women as a whole: they have a difficult time treating women as equals and have troubling characteristics that make them anathema to ladies their own age.

 

These are generalities, of course. I also don't find old men sexually attractive, though... so I've never been tempted to date one or entertain the idea. YMMV, basically.

[kaylan]

Posters in this thread have characterized men, based on their age alone, as more likely to see women as sexual playthings, objectify women, be more "set in their ways," among other things, right here in this thread, all of which are prejudicial, bigoted statements comparable to "I wouldn't date a Mexican, they are prone to laziness." Age alone does not determine attitude. Age alone does not determine propensity to treat others as sexual playthings, objectify them, or be "set in one's ways." Eat crow.

 

@kathym, I have dated women up to 12 years older than me, but we butt up on the realities of age past a point, and I dealt with that in my first post. I would certainly date a woman in her 50s if I found her attractive, and 60s, 70s or 80s too if she was physically fit, sexually capable and pleasant to be with.

 

What I certainly wouldn't do is preclude dating someone based on presumed -attitudes- or expected -behavior- based on their age alone.

Again, the posters attitudes are based upon the narrative set by the OP. OP set the tone of the thread with the typical Rich older guy whos trying to buy a young womans affection. I dont see anything wrong with posters replying based on the set narrative. Again, get over it and stop bringing this crap into every age thread you post in.

[tbf]

For ladies in your twenties, tell me you wouldn't date the character

who's portrayed by Jim Caviezel (44 years old). Total bad ass.

 

If single, I'd hit it!

[kaylan]

PS - someone being set in their ways is not similar to calling Mexicans lazy. People DO become set in their ways as they get older. What older mature person isnt set in who they are or what they believe in?

[nescafe1982]

For ladies in your twenties, tell me you wouldn't date the character

who's portrayed by Jim Caviezel (44 years old). Total bad ass.

 

If single, I'd hit it!

 

Ok, I revise my previous position. I would totally go for Jim Caviezel (14 yrs older than me) or Johnny Depp (20 years older than me). But that's it. That's the short-list.

[mesmerized]

I did have to learn those things, and unlearn bad habits to boot. Lots of men do not. Many of my friends instinctively knew them at 16. Everyone is different. Age itself is not a factor in learning how to attract the opposite sex, the advice one gets early on, instinctiveness, genetics, far more important. Some bloom early, some late. What's your point? As usual, you are making -my- point for me. Your habit of weakly appealing to other threads is annoying. How bout sticking to the topic of this thread. Or is your intent to take potshots at me personally as opposed to actually discussing the OP issue?

 

 

 

What's weird is that you think you have the privilege to appeal to "what is apparent to almost everyone" in trying to stifle my legitimate, topical posts to this thread. You don't.

 

blah blah. Sorry I upset you by calling you out. I have a good memory for things people say, And I'm gonna use what I know when appropriate.

 

The bolded alone makes me not take you very seriously. Age most often means experience and a lot of other things that inevitably comes with age, you know given we're all humans and all that. Majority of people admit they and their views have changed a lot with time and it's constantly changing. And that's exactly why you see patterns of same behavior in different age groups. You trying to make us believe that age has nothing to do with people's dating behavior and it's all these these other factors completely independent of age is at best laughable. Again, there are always exceptions, people who don't fit in streotypes and they should be given a chance to be seen for who they are than just a number. But...Really?

[tooslowatlove]

In my last 2 relationships I was "the older man". Both of the women were about 13 years younger than me.

[Janesays]

Oh goody, another Daisen argument-this should be fun.

 

I particularly like part where he smugly acts like he's winning an argument even when his opponent's posts are drowning in 'likes.'

 

*grabs popcorn

[mesmerized]

You didn't "upset" me, just offended my sense of reason by yet again making my points for me while trying to bring in unrelated threads in an effort to potshot.

 

 

 

...and "experience" alone is utterly meaningless. It's the quality of the experience, what one does with the experience and how one is molded by it in character and attitude. One guy still plays xbox on the couch at 35, another has traveled all over the world at 25. The 35 y.o. definitely has ten more years of "experience" than the 25 y.o., but does that amount to a hill of beans? No.

 

Making statements or assumptions about people's attitudes and character based on age alone is bigotry, plain and simple.

 

Holy mother of.....Are you however denying the fact that way more people are likely to have traveled the world at 35 than at 25? That is the whole point. You really can't be this dense.

 

Nobody is making it based on age alone, they do however go with the "odds". And yes sometimes it's unfair.

[mesmerized]

Yes! I have no idea how much someone has traveled based on mere age, neither do you. Keep making my points. "Dense" indeed.

 

It's almost like you didn't read or understand what I said at all and English is your first language not mine. I guess Logic is your 95th language. You're hopeless for your age. I can see why you need to date younger women.

[mesmerized]

I -quoted- what you said, your words, not mine. They are very clear. The sentiment that you can tell how much someone has traveled based on their age alone is as silly and prejudicial as thinking someone is more likely to objectify people based on age alone.

 

Yes and you did not understand my post AT ALL. Actually I believe you did but pretend you didn't which makes you an even bigger idiot. I'm talking about likelihood and acknowledge the fact that there are exceptions. Exceptions do not change the fact that you are way more likely to find 35 year olds with world traveling experience than 25 year olds. You conveniently skipped over that question and the correlation of age and experience. Grow up and admit to common sense. You are not going to convince anyone here with your weak logic and twisting other peoples words anyway. Not to mention you're even less liked here than I am.

[kaylan]

blah blah. Sorry I upset you by calling you out. I have a good memory for things people say, And I'm gonna use what I know when appropriate.

 

The bolded alone makes me not take you very seriously. Age most often means experience and a lot of other things that inevitably comes with age, you know given we're all humans and all that. Majority of people admit they and their views have changed a lot with time and it's constantly changing. And that's exactly why you see patterns of same behavior in different age groups. You trying to make us believe that age has nothing to do with people's dating behavior and it's all these these other factors completely independent of age is at best laughable. Again, there are always exceptions, people who don't fit in streotypes and they should be given a chance to be seen for who they are than just a number. But...Really?

Agree.

 

If I had my 26 year old mind in my 16 year old selfs body, I would have been king of my school easily. Age def made dating easier for me. And my views have changed so much from my teens into my 20s, and Im still growing.

[kaylan]

No she didn't, she posted they have lots in common, he is nice, he is rich and ugly, 20 years older. That's it, that's all. That's what she posted. Stop lying and spinning, the OP is quite clear and contains none of the "typical rich older guy who's trying to buy a young woman's affection.":lmao: We don't even know whether the guy even bought her a coffee, or anything at all, let alone tried to buy her affection. As usual, your prejudice on male female age gaps is sticking out like a sore thumb. Telling.

 

The only "set narrative" with respect to what the OP actually posted is in the prejudiced reader's mind. Keep twisting in the wind, though, it's funny.

Clearly you couldnt see what the trolling OP was trying to do then. By mentioning his income, her lack of attraction, etc....this was a clear case of another old unattractive guy trying to buy the young hottie's affection.

 

Whine elsewhere. And perhaps find a new topic to jump on, instead of this one ALL the time.

[kaylan]

Oh goody, another Daisen argument-this should be fun.

 

I particularly like part where he smugly acts like he's winning an argument even when his opponent's posts are drowning in 'likes.'

 

*grabs popcorn

Very true.

 

Anyways, would you like some butter for your popcorn?

[kaylan]

Youre talking to yourself now dasein. I think many of us know its useless to get into circular debate with you. Keep posting if you wish. 3 posts in a row? Nice job

[Robert]

Well now, that didn't go as expected, thread closed