halaluyaa Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Pals, I was doing great for weeks. My ex broke with me 12 weeks ago and i have been on NC for 5 weeks. I was doing great last 4 weeks. Started flirting, hitting gym, dancing, even went to a date last friday. But i started to compare my date girl with my ex and my ex is 10 times better than her. And that date night i saw my ex în my dream and i cant stop thinking about her for 2 days. Wh is this happening? The feeling that my ex will sleep with someone is hurting me so much. I need to get rid of this feeling but how? Damn. I was okay, now what happened to me?
Philosoraptor Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Doesn't sound like emotionally you're ready to date. Just keep taking care of yourself and take life slowly. Your ex will sleep with someone else. She may have already slept with multiple people, and may be doing so as you're reading this message. But that is nothing you can control and can't be the focus of your life. The focus of your life needs to be yourself.
Author halaluyaa Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 Doesn't sound like emotionally you're ready to date. Just keep taking care of yourself and take life slowly. Your ex will sleep with someone else. She may have already slept with multiple people, and may be doing so as you're reading this message. But that is nothing you can control and can't be the focus of your life. The focus of your life needs to be yourself. Damn that really hurt to think that she will sleep with another guy. Another guy wîll kiss her, have sex with her as i did, even more. Damn those sick thoughts.
Philosoraptor Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 And on the flip side, you will meet someone that you are intimate with more than you were with the ex.
JDPT Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 It's life and reality. Think about it, just as you are attempting to move forward with your life going on dates and flirting so will she. The same thoughts you are having now used to torture me to the core months ago. I used to generate fictitious scenarios in my head picturing her doing the exact same things in intimacy she did with me but now with someone else. Now, every now and then I still get those thoughts but they don't bother me as much as I think I'm better understanding that there is absolutely nothing I can do to prevent her from living her life, just accept it.
Author halaluyaa Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 And on the flip side, you will meet someone that you are intimate with more than you were with the ex. Also the same thing will happen to her.
theonlyjuan Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 That is your mind telling you your not ready to date. Some people can't date without over-analyzing everything. They compare everything to past girlfriends etc. Some can just block it all out and just enjoy the company
Author halaluyaa Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 That is your mind telling you your not ready to date. Some people can't date without over-analyzing everything. They compare everything to past girlfriends etc. Some can just block it all out and just enjoy the company Maybe if i meet lots of women and go on lots of dates i can have that mindset and better.
theonlyjuan Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Well be honest with the girls you date. I would approach girls more as a friend, if it was me. Get to know someone as a friend and see what happens. If you like them, date them. If you don't then at least you have made a new friend. You will eventually meet someone who makes you feel good again, you will think they are 100 x better than your ex.
Author halaluyaa Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 (edited) Well be honest with the girls you date. I would approach girls more as a friend, if it was me. Get to know someone as a friend and see what happens. If you like them, date them. If you don't then at least you have made a new friend. You will eventually meet someone who makes you feel good again, you will think they are 100 x better than your ex. Well i am going to dates but i am not looking for anything emotional. Just looking physical. So i dont think i will get hurt if it doesnt work out with girls i am dating. Edited August 19, 2013 by halaluyaa
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