Kant Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 I know no one is perfect, all relationships are work and no one can be your everything. I know, I know, I know... but, the next best thing is someone who is not perfect but that hold a combination of interests and characteristics that get closer to the notion of the 'total package'. My fear is those characteristics and interests are uncommon and even more uncommon in combination. There are qualities I know I can't compromise on, not by choice but because I can't 'feel' the desire for someone with out them. Just 'feeling' the desire for people is something I seem to have lost, I can't get past feeling platonic. When I did have that spark they were much to old for me or taken (Men like the kind I like get snapped up pretty quick by the looks of it). My other fear is that those thing that I do find attractive can be negatives if there not balanced. For example it takes a misanthrope to enjoy a lot of the humour I do (Lewis C.K, movies like The Guard), but misanthropes don't make for the best partners, it needs to be paired with a critical fortitude. I'm just using this as an example. It will take me years to get over my ex (its been over a year already). My concern is falling into the wrong kind of relationships, that I will over compensate for qualities I know aren't balanced. I know this sounds petty but sex is a really good example. I would kill for sex I actually enjoy - I would do some dumb things for that. This is wear I am at, these are the fears that creep up on me. I really am just venting, but I would like to know if anyone else is struggling with similar fears.
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