Mads3131 Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 So this guy and I were dating and it was really great we got a long so well. But we were moving way too fast and he is going to get really busy with college and sports starting up. He can't be in a ration ship right now. Anyways later we talked about being friends and he said it isn't like we have tone just friends for good, we can see how things go. How should I go from here/ how should I act when we hang out? Will things just come naturally?
ChristinaB Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 I think things will develop naturally. Mind you, I've been going through something similar and it's kind of backfiring at the moment... Then again, things tend to work out the way they're meant to.... Good luck! :-)
Author Mads3131 Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 I was the one who brought up hoping we could still be friends, because things were getting awkward and he said that we are of course friends and then brought up that itsn't like we can be only friends for good, we'd just see how things go. thats a good sign that he brought up the idea of something more in the future?
BluEyeL Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 No, it's not a good sign. He told you he doesn't want a relationship with you, belive him!! You should just let this go, it will not work out. You're wasting time you could use to meet guys who want a relationship with you. 1
Author Mads3131 Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 No, it's not a good sign. He told you he doesn't want a relationship with you, belive him!! You should just let this go, it will not work out. You're wasting time you could use to meet guys who want a relationship with you. i see what you are saying but he truly is too busy to be in any relationship right now because he is an ivy league athlete and with sports starting he is so busy. He seemed to be really into me but freaked out by the idea of a reltionship RIGHT NOW. we got along really well and since i was going to see him around i wanted to make sure we were still friends. He is the one who said he would of course want to be friends and see where things went from there. Not that he didnt want a relationship ever, just that it was bad timing now
Author Mads3131 Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 but he still wanted to hang out, like it seems like he wnated to take things slow but not be in starting a new relationship right with school starting and the sports season starting since the two are very important to him...he still wants to hang though
scorpiogirl Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 You're asking the same question in 10 different ways hoping that someone will tell you to wait. He's not interested. He's not too busy for a relationship. Cut your ties now because you're still going to be waiting around for him to be ready, and then you're going to get the news that he has a girlfriend. The only reason he's amenable to "hanging out" or being "friends" is because he doesn't want you to think he's an *******, which you would do if he said he didn't think you were the one for him. And he's also possibly keeping you around in case he needs you for whatever - when he's bored, he knows you'll be there to text or chat or whatever. He might want sex from you with no expectations from you but giving you a future maybe. He might need you to pump him up when he's feeling badly. Nothing like a woman (or man) who adores you to pick you up when you're low. I've been there. It's awkward for you because you're still hoping he'll change his mind. Awkward for him because he know you're hoping but he won't cut you loose just yet because he wants you around for his selfish reasons. Forget about him. And not, if he makes up his mind he should call you. YOU walk away and don't be available for a call later. You're worth more than some guy figuring out if you're good enough for him. There's someone better out there, who won't make you guess. 1
PogoStick Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 You're friends. So start dating other guys. Good chance he is wanting to date other girls and party when he's back at school.
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