ChristinaB Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 (edited) So I have a weird relationship with an amazing guy... Sorry it's long We started dating at the beginning of the year and things were amazing. Then he broke up with me because he said he wasn't ready for a relationship. That's when it all came out.... His ex was a crazy abusive lady (no lie.... We're talking physically and verbally abusive to him, insulting to his friends and family). Anyway, he keeps going back to her. They fight and stop talking for a while.... And then repeat. Well, we got back together but decided to take it slow... No rush just enjoy each other's company and see what developed. Things were wonderful and two months ago, we decided to move in together. Obviously, I thought the ex was out of the picture. Things have been amazing... Like something out of a romance novel... We're just so damn happy.... But every time things get too good, the ex reappears (she even sends me hate mail). Obviously, she reappears because he lets her and that brings me to this week. We had an amazing week... He was telling me up until Thursday how much he loves me and how happy I make him... And how although he's not ready for a relationship, how he hopes to get there one day. That was Thursday. Friday he went out with the ex. We argued about it (she had been sending him hate mail all week so I wondered why he'd meet up with her). Saturday... He had sex with her. :-( So now what? He says he loves me and deep down knows it won't work with the ex. He knows he's sabotaging and is willing to go to a counselor. Neither of us wants to move apart... For financial reasons and because of my son and our dogs... Too much upset there. But what do I do? My heart is shattered. Oh and no offense to the younger crowd on here, but we're both 38, so it's not as if this is some teen relationship. Edited August 19, 2013 by ChristinaB
Miss_raptor Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Extract yourself from this situation. Do not wait for him to change. For the sake of your son and your mental health, don't pay emotional tug of war with him. It's going to be hard initially, but he's told me all you need to know, that he's not ready for a relationship and not ready to let go of his ex.
hestheone66 Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 you are full of hope that it will be a relationship someday. the pain of realising you can do better than him is much less if you end now..he is very good at words b:lmao:ut not with actions. this is too onesided and you know it. demonstrate to your son that real men dont start a new relationship until the old one has been thorougly put to bed. kick him out today. he sounds like a complete user.
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