Skyraider829 Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 (edited) Women like men with confidence.... Does a guy who think it's rude or awkward to walk up and say hi and ask a girl for their number display confidence... How does that gauge confidence? Wouldn't "being considerate" be a better way to describe it? I don't see how confidence is related to that. Edited August 19, 2013 by Skyraider829 2
Southern Cal Dude Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Not all women are the same. Some use their eyes from a distance, some will come up to you, some send their friends over(b*tch move), and some flat out ignore you. Thinking about it will just drive you insane.
jma500 Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 (edited) You are a troll. Most people can see that from your usual responses. As if your username wasnt a telling sign in its own right. When it gets down to it, most people dont like every stranger walking up to them and getting in their personal space. Thats why indicators of interest are important, especially in a party, bar or club setting. Its not about being afraid of rejection. Its about maximizing my returns with the right women instead of cold approach spamming, which is desperate in its own right. Calling posters trolls on ls will get you an infraction from the mods. As silly as this sounds it happened to me a few weeks ago with these same jokers. Expect an email from William soon. Edited August 19, 2013 by jma500
RedRobin Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 I think the key is to escalate in small ways, that increasingly move from casual/friendly to interested/assertive. If she keeps up with the escalation, that's a sign of interest. If she gives short answers, that's not. She should match you. I agree with this.... and I will provide an example. I was at the Starbucks near my parent's place in FL... Was there half the day. As I was leaving, an attractive young man came out to ask me out. I declined, saying "Sorry, I don't date strangers".... Never mind that he was cuter than hell, and very sincere. Had he taken the time to come outside and sit at a table near me... make some eye contact... chat for a bit... let me get a feel for him. Heck, even pet my dog.. perhaps I'd feel he was less of a 'stranger'... and more someone I might want to get to know. also, the pressure to make something romantic right away is a turn off. How about just approaching people you might want to get to know and not making it all about getting up in their grille ASAP. THAT is tacky and off putting to me. Do it with some class... do it by giving me a chance to size you up a little... and maybe, just maybe, I'll give you my number... 2
Skyraider829 Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 I agree with this.... and I will provide an example. I was at the Starbucks near my parent's place in FL... Was there half the day. As I was leaving, an attractive young man came out to ask me out. I declined, saying "Sorry, I don't date strangers".... Never mind that he was cuter than hell, and very sincere. Had he taken the time to come outside and sit at a table near me... make some eye contact... chat for a bit... let me get a feel for him. Heck, even pet my dog.. perhaps I'd feel he was less of a 'stranger'... and more someone I might want to get to know. also, the pressure to make something romantic right away is a turn off. How about just approaching people you might want to get to know and not making it all about getting up in their grille ASAP. THAT is tacky and off putting to me. Do it with some class... do it by giving me a chance to size you up a little... and maybe, just maybe, I'll give you my number... You said it, ditto. Now THAT is what I'm talking about. I'm a guy and I would not go for a stone cold approach with the shallow line "How about you and I go out?" in my head if I were interested in some girl nearby me. A subtle acquaintanceship is the key to some success if she returns the interest, and nothing is better (or wiser) than getting to know someone a priori versus going on some spontaneous date, expecting it to be some surefire, awesome event when you two realize that well, you two aren't mingling all that great during the date itself. That sort of sours the whole experience now doesn't it? I could not wrap my head around these dudes that go in for the kill in that manner. Unless the girl in question is a total deadbeat with no standard of self-respect, it doesn't seem logical in a social context to do so (asking her for a date with no familiarization) at all. I mean come on, whatever happened to politeness? Telling a girl you want to take her out when you don't even know her (and when she doesn't even know you) comes off as inconsiderate and rude, like all that matters is what the guy wants. So, what? You don't think the girl may be turned off by the fact that the guy doesn't even care to take her desires into consideration? Would that not turn a gal off to the prospect of a date from the very start? This is what I think about. That is why my tactic is to know them, chat with them, start off on the good foot and go from there. Then, a date seems like a swell idea if it all goes happily. 2
truth_seeker Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Similarly to a lot of guys, women will subconsciously get closer in proximity to someone they're interested in. If you notice her moving closer to you in a setting, then she might be trying to get your attention or encourage you to approach her. This is very true.
CrystalCastles Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 It's obvious you get approached by men all the time Um, okaaay? I actually *do* get approached by men all the time. Yep, you read that right. ALL. THE. TIME. I get checked out on public transit, hit on by fellow students, have been called "goodlooking" and "pretty" enough times that it's become pretty regular. However, I've had the experience of men simply cold-approaching me like that, and believe it or not, I have gotten texts from those very same men telling me they're going to get into my pants. Anything else you'd like to say to me? You don't know me, so don't judge. I am speaking from my own experience, cool?
CrystalCastles Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 You are a troll. Most people can see that from your usual responses. As if your username wasnt a telling sign in its own right. When it gets down to it, most people dont like every stranger walking up to them and getting in their personal space. Thats why indicators of interest are important, especially in a party, bar or club setting. Its not about being afraid of rejection. Its about maximizing my returns with the right women instead of cold approach spamming, which is desperate in its own right. Thank you thank you Kaylan. Especially the bit about the troll.
lino Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Cheeky smiles while looking at you is a pretty common one I think. If you already know the girl as an acquaintance at least, if she's interested, she'll go out of her way to always say hi to you and make small talk when she sees you. She'll drop WHATEVER she's doing SIMPLY to chat with you. I've experienced that before and it was a definite indicator in nearly all cases. I guess attention whores are the ones who ruin it all and there's no shortage of em. Hope this helps
lino Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Um, okaaay? I actually *do* get approached by men all the time. Yep, you read that right. ALL. THE. TIME. I get checked out on public transit, hit on by fellow students, have been called "goodlooking" and "pretty" enough times that it's become pretty regular. However, I've had the experience of men simply cold-approaching me like that, and believe it or not, I have gotten texts from those very same men telling me they're going to get into my pants. Anything else you'd like to say to me? You don't know me, so don't judge. I am speaking from my own experience, cool? wow, must suck to be you
Skyraider829 Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 If you already know the girl as an acquaintance at least, if she's interested, she'll go out of her way to always say hi to you and make small talk when she sees you. She'll drop WHATEVER she's doing SIMPLY to chat with you. I've experienced that before and it was a definite indicator in nearly all cases. I've been in similar scenarios. I find it that you will hit it off much better with prior familiarization.
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