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How to stop being suspicious of each new guy


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The last two relationships I was in were awful. One guy used me for money and he physically, emotionally and sexually abused me plus he was still in love with his ex. The second was a flaker he strung me along for months. The third one turned out to be married when I found out I dumped him and cut off all communication with him.

 

Due to this I have an insecurity about myself. I feel like something is wrong with me. How can I get over being jealous and feeling like each new guy is going to hurt and use me like the other guys have.

 

A lot of guys describe me as innocent. Could they be using that innocence about me to their advantage? I am not exactly sure why they consider me as innocence about me. Maybe it's my trusting nature?

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There is nothing wrong with being trusting. It does seem though that you aren't taking care of yourself as well as you should. It is important to give each person you meet a clean slate, but you must also see them and their actions clearly and not bias them too positively either.

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There is nothing wrong with being trusting. It does seem though that you aren't taking care of yourself as well as you should. It is important to give each person you meet a clean slate, but you must also see them and their actions clearly and not bias them too positively either.

 

What do you mean it seems I am not taking care of myself as I should?

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It seems as if you are allowing yourself to be taking advantage of rather than putting your own wants and needs first. It's fine to compromise, but don't compromise your own happiness for someone else.

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