CryForNoOne Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 On Friday night a very attractive blond we met at a bar kissed my GF. We noticed her staring at us (my GF) all night before she approached us. She opened by telling us we were a very cute couple but it didn't take long before she told my GF (and I knew this was coming) that she was the most beautiful person in the bar and asked if she could kiss her. My GF got visibly shy and nervous and initially declined. The woman kept insisting and making moves. I was quite amused by the whole thing as we'd been in a very similar situation a couple months ago. In the previous encounter, the woman was not attractive at all, so she spurned her but told me if she had been attractive she would have kissed her. So I decided to let this play out. They agreed to go outside for a smoke - I stayed inside as usual since I don't smoke. After about 5 minutes I decided to check up on them and they were just chatting over cigarettes. We all went back inside and it was at the bar again that she finally let her kiss and they made out for about 30 seconds. Quite a few people, particularly guys took notice. A few minutes later, the women said she had to go because her ride was leaving. I could tell she kinda dangled that out there in case we offered to be her ride, but neither of us took the bait and she left. Afterwards my GF and I talked about it and she told me that she was definitely attracted to her but was a little nervous. More than anything though she was scared of hurting me and didn't know how I would react. I told her I was amused, didn't really feel threatened, and was turned on. At the same time I also told her I could see the situation turning on a dime and me getting extremely jealous or upset. My GF has never kissed a girl except for messing around with her best friend in public displays just to give guys a rise. But we talk about celebrities we find attractive and she always makes comments like "I'd only be jealous if you slept with Kate Beckensale if you didn't invite me..." Were we playing with fire and was it a good thing nothing really happened?
Clockwork Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Women are weird that way. Yeah I know women can do stuff like this and it doesn't necessarily mean they are potential lesbians but the way I look at it is this; I've never kissed a man in my life and have no intention. Anytime I've seen girls kiss I figure it is for two reasons: One, they want to turn guys on. Or two, they actually enjoy it. Anytime I would see it, it never did anything for me. I'd be like "really, what are you into girls or something?"
MrCastle Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 You need to start pushing for a threesome dude.
Author CryForNoOne Posted August 21, 2013 Author Posted August 21, 2013 Obviously I don't know you or your gf so take what I'm saying as you will but honestly she sounds like no more than a barsexual . Whether she has any legitimate sexual attraction to the level of actually wanting to get physical is up for debate. A lot of women can find other women beautiful and occasionally sexually arousing without actually wanting to be with one. The multitude of straight women who watch lesbian porn, or example. What transpired in the bar is fine if it doesn't bother you but frankly if the little gears in your mind are churning and the bright, shining light of a threesome is coming though, knock it off. Given how you said you would likely react (i.e. jealous) I don't think it would even remotely be a good idea. We talked about it afterwards and she was definitely attracted to her. I asked her if she was aroused and she said "Dripping wet but I always am around you..." I think she doesn't know herself if she is barsexual or has real bisexual tendencies. It's obvious she gets excited by being a little risqué so the interaction turned her on. I guess the only way she'd find out if she's really attracted to women is to get physically intimate with one. I wasn't threatened because I'm very pragmatic about physical attraction. It happens all the time, even if you are in a committed relationship. My GF is definitely hetero first so as a man, I provide for her in ways a woman never could. So her having sex with another woman doesn't threaten me. That being said, I'd probably still get jealous unless I was invited to join in. It's funny, I asked her if she would get jealous, but she didn't really answer.
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