ja123 Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 I would like to date, if I'm honest, but I'm fed up with the roller-coaster ride of it. Is it just better to try to be just friends with the opposite sex, and get to know them just as people without all the hormones and everything kicking in? What are your thoughts?
365daysgone Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 That is exactly what I am doing. Just trying to go out with the opposite sex often and get to know them and get comfortable around them. I just want to make friends with them and if feelings develop for a girl, great but actively seeking a relationship seems forced sometimes.
Author ja123 Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 Yes, I feel the same way. I don't know, there seems to be too much pressure and expectations and before I know it I'm not even being myself in the dating context. It feels so inauthentic and like an act. I also recently went out with someone, but I thought it was just to be friends, but it was clearly a date and he really came on to me. So, it was like water on a desert ... fast forward ... we meet again .... only to figure out very quickly that we're not a match. I actually felt residually angry at him for turning it on so strong the first time because he awakened a need in me which he couldn't fulfill. So, I felt very let down. Now had we just tried to get to know each other as friends, then I wouldn't have felt let down as no romantic overtures would have been played, and at least we could still have been friends/acquaintances. Now there is nothing but awkwardness, and it really sucks.
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