sunetra.ria Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 (edited) Mine is a long story. I fell in love with a co-worker of mine 2 years ago. a really amazing guy S. he was sweet, funny, caring, everything I had ever wished for in a guy. since I was new in the city, I had no other friends apart from my co-workers, so his friends became my friends. I used to hang with him all d tym.. Among them, was his room mate cum best friend R. he just lost his job and was looking for an new job. Most of the tym, it was d 3 of us who would hangout. We went to movies, beaches, everywhere together. Now, S is really ambitious and he was climbing up in position ladder in d company. As a result, it was mainly K and me who would spend more time together. This went on for months, and I started having feelings for K. but I had no wish to act on that since I really love S. but we were spending less and less time together. He was still d same caring, sweet, funny guy, but I was seeing less and less of him. And we were at odds regarding marriage. I wanted to get married within a year and he needed at least 3 years to be ready. In d meantime K got a job. But we still hung out as usual. And slowly I could tell that he was also developing feelings for me. But neither of us wanted to act on it. I loved S and K was his childhood best friend(same neighbourhood, same school, same college, then 1 yr later room mates). So one day, me and S made a plan for a 3-day trip(just him and me) and before the day of the trip, he cancelled regarding work. I already did take a leave but he couldn’t because of work pressure. It really hurt me and K consoled me. Dat moment, we couldn’t take it and we kissed. A moment later he broke off d kiss and d whole thing was weird. There after he did not talk me for a week. I wa feeling guilty and finally told S d whole thing. He just couldn’t believe it at first. He got really angry and left my house. Half an hour later K calls me shouting on the phone what did I say to S. turns out S was leaving d apartment and he temporarily shifted to another friend’s flat. I tried calling him d whole tym nxt day but he did not Answer either of our calls. He did not show up at work for the net 3 days. Both us went at that friend’s house. He wasn’t there bt dat friend told us that he was leaving d city and had already told our company he would be leaving in a month. He already got an offer in gurgaon. S didn’t tell anyone why he was leaving d city or d apartment. Nobody knows dat I kissed K apart from 3 of us. S is actually to proud to tell everybody that I kissed someone else. He just told everybody that we broke up and it was mutual. Nw I tried talking to him in office last two days but he doesn’t even look at my direction. I dnt knw his new no. he deactivated his fb account. He is not even offering me a chance to explain myself. He is simply cutting both of us from his lyf. I emailed him 4 tyms explaining d whole but he didn’t reply. I doubt he even read that email. Nw help me everybody. I cant just lose him. He is d best thing that happened in my life. We both made mistakes, but he is not even listening to me let alone give me another chance. How do I convince him to give me another chance? Edited August 19, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author sunetra.ria Posted August 18, 2013 Author Posted August 18, 2013 pls dont give me suggestions regarding moving on. i dont want that. tell me how to get him back
templeofmax Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 We have all been there! There is not much you can, other than respecting his wishes. You have to stop contacting him to heal yourself and respect his decision. If he wants to give you another chance, he is the only one that can make that decision. After a while, if you don;t hear from him, maybe you can contact him, although most people here will tell you to go straight NC!!!
drallafi Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 If he was really the best thing in your life, you wouldn't have chosen his friend. It's over. Move on. Good luck.
Author sunetra.ria Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 i dont want to move on. tday has been like d millionth time that he has brushed me off without saying or hearing a word.. and K is angry with me for spilling d beans to S. and they r both taking it out on me. one silently, other verbally.
Sneaky Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 I read your story and I'll try to give some advice as best as I can though it might not be the kind you want to hear. First put yourself in his shoes and try to think objectively for a moment; his girlfriend cheated on him with his best friends. What explanation can there possible be that is going to make him want to be with you right now? If you really love him you need to stop acting out of fear of losing him and take responsibility; apologize, sincerely without expecting forgiveness and then do what's best for him. Give him time to process this and let him move on. He might forgive you and come back in time or he might not, but ultimately it's his decision.
Knoxpwns Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 can you repost this in english please? The part that is blowing me away is most of their spelling and sentence structure is decent.. but its like 5 words they want to spell differently like "tym" ... you saved 1 keystroke ... 1
JDPT Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 can you repost this in english please? I thought I was the only one. I didn't quiet understand hence the reason why I didn't reply 1
bubbaganoosh Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Face facts. You blew it when you kissed his best friend. You don't have to be a genius to figure that out. Rather than talk to your boyfriend and expressed your displeasure, you turned to another guy and the other guy is his friend. it's called deceit. it's called cheating, back stabbing, dishonest. You catching on yet? Someone else posting said it. If it was your boyfriend that kissed your best girlfriend how would it feel? Your only thinking of yourself on this one. Try thinking about how he feels. Maybe then you'll understand.
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