montykatzy Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 I have been broken up with my ex for about 2 months now. About two weeks ago I got really drunk and texted her a really mean text message. She is a pretty fragile girl in terms of emotions, and no amount of apology made her forgive me. We don't talk, but the morning after she told me that I had ruined any chance of me getting back with her. It's messing with my head because her friend told me that she still liked me, but that the things I've said were a bit too much. How do I get her to forgive me, and potentially get her back? She was the best thing to happen to me, and I regret the relationship ending.
templeofmax Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 Ask for forgiveness and send her something unique (no flowers or chocolate BS) that she would like, something that shows her you appreciate her. This is only ABOUT that text message, not about getting back together. For that you have to go NC and wait up. So if she doesn't say anything about the gift, don't send her anything. Just send an apology letter and the gift. Nothing else and leave it at that.
Author montykatzy Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 I've tried sending her a letter before, and she just sent me a text saying 'okay'. She told me that she doesn't hate me, she doesn't love me, and she never wants me in her life again. That's what hurt the most.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Ask for forgiveness and send her something unique (no flowers or chocolate BS) that she would like, something that shows her you appreciate her. This is only ABOUT that text message, not about getting back together. For that you have to go NC and wait up. So if she doesn't say anything about the gift, don't send her anything. Just send an apology letter and the gift. Nothing else and leave it at that. No No No No No....all NO. OP, she broke up with you two months ago. She really probably had no plans whatsoever to get back with you, and you sent a text that hurt her feelings. She knows the only thing you cared about was getting back with her, so she shoved that in your face as a "I got you back" type things. Dont listen to "Well her friend said this" and what not. That always leads to false hopes and what not. Dont feel bad about the text, we've all done stuff like that before. I wouldnt take it too hard, but keep moving forward. 2
JDPT Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 I think is irrelevant how she feels at this point as she clearly does not want you in her life any longer as harsh as this may sound. Take this experience with a grain of salt and move forward. I would suggest not to dwell on it and move forward. Accept the fact that for her the relationship is over and perhaps it has been over for a very long time. Focus on yourself and shift this energy towards something more positive. You are all that matters at this point don't turn what you feel now into an obsession for your ex.
Author montykatzy Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 I thought that she moved on long ago, but a day or two before that party where I got drunk, she sent me a text saying that she missed me and what we had. And since we had broken up before, I knew this meant that she loved me still. That's why I thought I was in control, and said some stupid things. To the person who asked what I said, it was along the lines of 'f**k you, I hope you die, you're the most untrustworthy person ever'
Chi townD Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Sorry dude, But it was a stupid mistake that you're just going to have to live with. Write an apology with the expectation that you are not going to get a response and then, move on. It's time to heal and move on. 2
JDPT Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Just let it be, there are certain things that are best left unsaid.
Sneaky Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Yikes. Honestly I would apologize after sending that, but only do it if you are sincerely sorry for the action and have no expectations; not forgiveness nor a reply and definitely not because you think it might give you a better chance at getting back together.
forgetmenot75 Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Message her apologizing and don't expect a reply. she is clearly not interested in you, but you've been rude... Move on.
Joaquin Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 (edited) I thought that she moved on long ago, but a day or two before that party where I got drunk, she sent me a text saying that she missed me and what we had. And since we had broken up before, I knew this meant that she loved me still. That's why I thought I was in control, and said some stupid things. To the person who asked what I said, it was along the lines of 'f**k you, I hope you die, you're the most untrustworthy person ever' U thought u were in control of another person so thought it ok to abuse them. u need to grow the **** up and leave this girl the hell alone. Edited August 19, 2013 by Joaquin
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