jcweik Posted November 8, 2004 Posted November 8, 2004 Just venting a little. I wake up in the middle of the night/morning and i think about her. It irratates me. Then i start asking myself all these questions, wonder to myself how i can get her back. And it pyschially pisses me off. The only thing i can do to feel better is to listen to my heavy, loud, music. Why is this? I've sat around for days and wondered wtf i can do to get her back. And i'm sick of thinking about it. If i felt this way for her, I'm sure there are more females out there that i can feel this towards.
bbwcfan Posted November 8, 2004 Posted November 8, 2004 Listening to loud heavy music helps. And just try to imagine she is dead. And never existed. It is hard. Time will heal it (I hope). I'm in the same boat.
BlueLP Posted November 8, 2004 Posted November 8, 2004 I don't know if this will make sense, but I'll try to explain my experience. I felt the same way, I think it's very natural to feel that. And some of it is just time grinding away at the sharp hurt right now until it is more dull. But I also realized that my interpretations of thinking about her were really adding to my upsetness. By this I mean that every time I would catch myself thinking about her, I would get all upset at myself and thinking things like "F***, am I thinking about her again...what's the matter with me? Or, "I should be thinking about her less, I am just totally stuck on her" or "Why the hell do I think about how to get her back, I know I should be moving on." You have control over these interpretations.....the fact is, it seems like we all think about our ex's pretty intensely for a while, and we all think about how to get them back. Next time you find yourself going through this, give yourself permission to do it. Just think "Well, I'm in a hard situation and most people in this situation think about their ex's a lot. It's ok, my poor head just needs time to get over it." Laugh at yourself, it's Murphy's law that the one thing you'd rather not think about stays on your thoughts. Alright, hopefully some of that made sense.
Author jcweik Posted November 8, 2004 Author Posted November 8, 2004 Its been 8 months now..... I've tryed being with other girls, but it does not work out.
Sukotto Posted November 8, 2004 Posted November 8, 2004 Well dont just think about her good points, i'm sure she had flaws too. Remember those when you think about her and put it in perspective. No point in painting this unrealistic picture in your mind.
Author jcweik Posted November 8, 2004 Author Posted November 8, 2004 I've done that, believe me i have. I tryed to force my self to hate her for the longest time, and i did for awhile. When i'm with someone else i will be fine, as soon as i touch them, or look at the her name/image pops into my head. I have walked into the mall before, thought i seen her, and said "hey E*****!" That girl turned around and it was not her. I felt so stupid.
bbwcfan Posted November 9, 2004 Posted November 9, 2004 Imagine 500 guys all having sex with her at the same time as she is burning a picture of you. It helps me. jk. Everytime I think of the good moments, I stop and think.. hey, she hurt me. She broke up with me. And I start to think about the bad times we shared. Or I think about what I lost when I was with her. Sure, I love her, sure, I'd take her back, but why think about something you have no control over? I know it is hard..
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