Ex playing games..

[caoife]

My ex fiancee of 8 years walked out on me 9 weeks ago.

 

He had been cheating on me with another woman for 6 months and I had known nothing, when I found out he didn't leave right away. He stayed for two weeks telling me he didn't know what he wanted me or her.

 

I would of kicked him out there and then except my a son who calls him dad, was there and I just couldn't take his dad away.. anyway after 2 weeks we had an argument and he walked out.. went straight to her and moved in, he came back off and on over the next 7 days. Getting his stuff and such always leaving me and my boy in tears..

 

Then 8 weeks ago, he starts texting and calling and coming around telling me he loves me and wants to come home, and that's where I am he has been calling and texting everyday for two months, but he never actually comes home. He just spends time here, sleeps with me tells me he loves us then back to her..he would even txt saying things like I'm making her mad so I can leave and be with you. But he never did..

 

last night I get as txt off her calling me everything under the sun, saying I'm breaking "her" relationship up, and she doesn't believe a word off it, that it's all lies..I told her everything he Said to me he denied it all of course.

And txt me to tell me he hated me and my son...that he never loved me just didn't know how to get rid of us..

 

So now I'm lost, I waited like an idiot for nothing, he has taken everything.. we have nothing left.. and I'm still sat here crying over him and begging him to come back....

 

Someone help

Edited August 18, 2013 by caoife

[JDPT]

Don't prolong the inevitable and I know this is easier said than done but move on with your life for good. This man is clearly nothing but trouble and cannot be trusted at all. He disregarded your engagement to you but I personally feel for you son since he chooses to leave his little boy in tears every time, that breaks my heart completely and this is coming from a guy's perspective. Don't sugarcoat his short comings and flaws, he cheated on you while you were engaged and decided to leave the relationship. I am sorry you are currently going through this but you must be strong, very strong specially for your little son. You and your son should be your only priority from this point forward.

[caoife]

Ive tried really Hard to Go NC with him, but he wont take no for an answer..

 

He still repeatedly texts or calls and if that doesn't work he comes round to the house, or picks my son up from school and brings him home..

 

He tells me in every txt and every email he sends that he will come home, he just needs to get this women out of his system..

 

Its not like I can just walk away.. I found out im pregnant...

 

I told him and he says he will come home but he doesnt know when..

 

feel like running away now..

[saltyfishhead666]

Once a cheat always a cheat. He didnt

Think of you and your son when he was off getting between someone

Else's legs and why should you sit around, pregnant openly allowing him to cheat because he wants to come home?

 

Change your number, get a new email and tell him you are done. You love him, you are hurt but you are in a better position right now than if he does it again and you have your son and a newborn.

 

Be strong you are both worth so much more than he is giving you.

[todreaminblue]

hey,

 

 

i wrote this long post about similarities between you and i and i deleted it......

 

i wont haunt you with my past hell you have enough sadness

 

what i do know is this what is worse than a single parent mum raising a child or children on her own.......

 

 

a dad who is not not capable of being a dad and being a true father......who walks in and out of those children's life with no thought or concern for their welfare and more concern place with where he gets his groove on....at the moment he is grooving to two beats and when it suits him he not only abandons but uses the word hate to describe feelings for a child who will love him forever.......

 

you have to tell him to leave and leave for good........my youngest daughter has predominantly been my sole responsibility, i have been a constant in her life..... and she is the one with the least issues that haunt and sadden her...

 

 

you need to be that constant........

 

for your children and it wont be easy it can be hell,...but your children will be happier when they dont see a mum with swollen eyes from crying or eventual bruises or anxiety over a faithless wayward abandoning husband and father......

 

 

i so feel for you your post brought back a few memories for me....one memory was the look of desolation in the eyes of my three girls, when i couldnt answer their heartfelt plea.....cant you ask him to stay as they bawled their eyes out......i didnt say a word for a week after that my throat closed over and they eventually court ordered me into hospital for life intervention......i become desolate

 

 

i wish you strength, peace, light and love...you have the love....inside you growing stronger everyday listening to that heart beat of yours and beside you with your loving son...hugs mighty huge ones...crap you made me cry.....you will make it.......i know you will.........deb

Edited August 27, 2013 by todreaminblue

[melell]

You can walk away now even though you are pregnant. HE HAS WALKED AWAY.

 

You can move on. You can only reply to his messages regarding him seeing his children. You can live alone. You can take care of your children without him. You can also find love again with someone who respects you.

 

Create boundaries. Stick to them. Go to therapy. Start to process.

 

It is not fair on you to be living like this, you don't deserve this hurt. If you loved yourself, which you should, you would know deep that this isn't okay, and this isn't right for you.

[caoife]

Thank you.. I have no other words left.. But thank you xx

[blotter]

Don't forget an abortion is always an option.

[caoife]

its never an option....