Monodare1 Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 Hi Since my separation in June, I've been struggling to regain my confidence in general, sure, I've been hitting the gym hard since it happened and have seen some results, but my confidence just seems shot to pieces. When I speak to other women (not in a flirting spence, just normal day to day stuff) I seem to gibber and feel awkward. I also seem pretty down on my self. Has anyone else encountered these feelings? Can someone advise how I can boost my confidence again?
Caldespair Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Yep, been there done that. Im at 9 months and finally feeling a bit better (until recent setback). I think you just have to feel like crap, low self esteem until you naturally get over it. For sure keep the exercise up and keep busy. Do not stew in the lousy feelings. Hang in there, Ive been there and I am still there..time brother is what they all say 3
Jstub Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Was there any cheating involved? 2 months is really not that long to recover and gain self confidence. It's a longer process than that - specially if there was cheating involved.
ShannonBanana Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 I think you should give yourself some time to get your confidence legs under you. It's been a long time for you since you had to think about other women so it's like having an atrophied muscle. With practice, it will come back to you. Probably faster than you think. If you want to have coffee sometime in Edinburgh, since I am in the next town AND I am a female, let me know. You can get some practice chatting with a girl and I can get the benefit of the company of someone going through the same thing as me. 2
Author Monodare1 Posted August 21, 2013 Author Posted August 21, 2013 Sounds good Shannon, just a half hour train journey away :-) 1
ShannonBanana Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 You can message me on Facebook, if you have an account. My name on there is Shannon Victoria. I think there are a few others with that name, so look for the one in Edinburgh.
amaysngrace Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 You can message me on Facebook, if you have an account. My name on there is Shannon Victoria. I think there are a few others with that name, so look for the one in Edinburgh. How many new friend requests have you gotten today? PS are you really a cop???
revitup Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 "you're getting so skinny you're gonna fall through your ass hole and hang yourself" - my Grandpa That made my day! REVITUP
revitup Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 In order to regain confidence,you must have had it in the beginning.It's just a simple matter of remembering..... who you already are! I'm very confident that is right,exactly and unambiguously correct as a matter of fact. REVITUP 2
ShannonBanana Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 At Amasyngrace - Disappointingly none! I thought for sure I'd get at least 5!
worldgonewrong Posted August 21, 2013 Posted August 21, 2013 In order to regain confidence,you must have had it in the beginning.It's just a simple matter of remembering..... who you already are! ^^^ Quoted for truth. When the man is right, the man is right.
Shocked Suzie Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 Yep, been there done that. Im at 9 months and finally feeling a bit better (until recent setback). I think you just have to feel like crap, low self esteem until you naturally get over it. For sure keep the exercise up and keep busy. Do not stew in the lousy feelings. Hang in there, Ive been there and I am still there..time brother is what they all say[/QUOTE] Think this is true and all you can do... Feel the same self esteem pretty low too, I suppose it will come in time and when there is a natural connection then it should become much easier... Here's hoping anyway
Shocked Suzie Posted August 24, 2013 Posted August 24, 2013 Yep, been there done that. Im at 9 months and finally feeling a bit better (until recent setback).E] Think this is true and all you can do... Feel the same self esteem pretty low too, I suppose it will come in time and when there is a natural connection then it should become much easier... Here's hoping anyway
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