atomicdog Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 So I'm a 26 year old guy. Kinda youngish looking - I still get carded at liquor stores/clubs and workmates like to joke about how I look younger. I've only had a tiny amount of success with women - had a very short-term girlfriend and a couple of one-night-stands. This is probably because I'm a bit less socially skilled, funny and confident than most men. I also find it hard to seduce women who I'm not emotionally attracted to, and to be emotionally attracted, they have to be fairly youngish (at least my age or younger) and reasonably good looking (I don't mind bigger girls, but at least they have to have a nice face). Problem is, I'm wondering if I'm going to end up with even less luck as I start to look older. I've heard that some women are into older men, but those might be women I find unattractive. Maybe only older women are attracted to older men? Would this mean I can only date 30-40 year olds? I guess I just want some general thoughts from people on what it's like to be an older man, and whether the opportunities get lesser, greater or just stay the same?
GrownCold Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 So I'm a 26 year old guy. Kinda youngish looking - I still get carded at liquor stores/clubs and workmates like to joke about how I look younger. I've only had a tiny amount of success with women - had a very short-term girlfriend and a couple of one-night-stands. This is probably because I'm a bit less socially skilled, funny and confident than most men. I also find it hard to seduce women who I'm not emotionally attracted to, and to be emotionally attracted, they have to be fairly youngish (at least my age or younger) and reasonably good looking (I don't mind bigger girls, but at least they have to have a nice face). Problem is, I'm wondering if I'm going to end up with even less luck as I start to look older. I've heard that some women are into older men, but those might be women I find unattractive. Maybe only older women are attracted to older men? Would this mean I can only date 30-40 year olds? I guess I just want some general thoughts from people on what it's like to be an older man, and whether the opportunities get lesser, greater or just stay the same? Hi, atomicdog. I can totally relate. I'm turning 29 on September. And my looks seem younger than my actual age. I used to get carded, too, in my early 20's. Big deal. I wouldn't worry about that. As for women and girls... Well, I'll make an effort to not to bring up my personal issues and try to be as neutral and objective as possible. They usually tend to assume that I'm 23, for instance. In most cases, they would never get over the fact that I'm heading into my 30's. All in all, I see it as an advantage. Younger girls (whom I'm into, too, as well as you) like older guys, sure. But by looking the same age as them, they don't get so intimidated. It's a double win: they get the older guy (and the assets that supposedly comes with it, i.e. experience and etc) and also the young, fresh faced guy. Something similar happens when it comes to older women. They can date a teenage-faced guy whose age is way above the legal minimum. I don't like older women. MILFs and cougars are overrated. I've been there and I didn't feel comfortable around them. There could be exceptions, of course, but I rather look for the younger ones. Finally, you shouldn't be afraid about what's going to happen as you grow older. Things will get better and better. You will get better and better. It's a matter of earning and gathering experience, which is what you should work on. That way you will eventualy reinforce that mix between young looks and mature appeal. Physically, I like myself now much more that when I was in my early 20's, or even in my mid 20's. Maybe, that "teenage cuteness" won't pay off in the short run, but it will evolve into "mature hotness". There's that sort of cliché that says that men are like wine, etc. Being a cliché doesn't make it less true. I guess it's a positive way of thinking about aging. I tend to think of guys like us as if we were a male version of the Lolita archetype, lol.
El Brujo Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 Some do, some don't. The actor Anthony Quinn was said to have fathered one or two kids when he was in his 80s. As for me, when I was between 43 and 45 something weird happened... I suddenly didn't feel so desperate for female companionship. Nowadays with my life more together than it was, I feel it would be nice to have a little icing on my cake... but I'll be damned if I'm going to put my butt on the line to get it. In any case though, don't mess around with your testosterone levels just because you think it will turn you into Stud #1... you could end up working out a hell of a case of prostate cancer down the road if you talk an MD into injecting you with the stuff. It ain't worth it, brother.
miss_jaclynrae Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 My man is 32, he had no problem getting me, and I am 23. He also dated a lot, so I know he has NEVER had a problem landing women. He is good looking, and even after balding in his mid 20's, getting someone has never been an issue. As for biological clock? That is different than what you are asking, but my man has one. Wants kids by the time he is 36. He isn't getting any younger!
tbf Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 A biological clock surrounds the need to breed, prior to the reduction in aspects of sexual physiology. Examples would be reduction or erosion of testosterone, estrogen, ovarian follicles and sperm. Males also appear to have a biological clock that's similar to women's, where there's a greater need to settle down and mate by x age. But I wonder if you haven't confused biological clock with the metaphor "shelf life". Shelf life denotes an expiry date/age for attractiveness. As far as shelf life is concerned, this is a term I don't believe in. For individuals who embrace it, they appear to premise their belief with a youth equals beauty equation. My belief is that the current societal model of youth equals beauty is nothing more than the fashion and medical (including biotech) industry's self-serving attempts to exacerbate human nature's fear of death, specifically targeting baby boomers who hold the majority of the global wealth and desperately fear aging and death. Overall, I'd say that people can be attractive at any age, as long as they maintain emotional and physical health. In feeding the healthy synergy, they subconsciously externally project happiness and confidence through verbal and non-verbal forms of communication, which attracts both romantic and platonic partners. 2
hppr Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 So I'm a 26 year old guy. Kinda youngish looking - I still get carded at liquor stores/clubs and workmates like to joke about how I look younger. I've only had a tiny amount of success with women - had a very short-term girlfriend and a couple of one-night-stands. This is probably because I'm a bit less socially skilled, funny and confident than most men. I also find it hard to seduce women who I'm not emotionally attracted to, and to be emotionally attracted, they have to be fairly youngish (at least my age or younger) and reasonably good looking (I don't mind bigger girls, but at least they have to have a nice face). Problem is, I'm wondering if I'm going to end up with even less luck as I start to look older. I've heard that some women are into older men, but those might be women I find unattractive. Maybe only older women are attracted to older men? Would this mean I can only date 30-40 year olds? I guess I just want some general thoughts from people on what it's like to be an older man, and whether the opportunities get lesser, greater or just stay the same? I was the same way when I was 26. A good relationship was something I really wanted so I tried very hard at it. Eventually I did meet someone and so far it has worked out very well but it took about 3 years worth of dating and a lot of 'personal growth' to put it mildly. If this is something you want then you should do the same. Trust me you don't want to be a single guy in your 30s looking for a relationship.
neowulf Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 I'm turning 35 in Nov and yes, I have a clock. Unfortunately, I'm too pragmatic to just jump into something without feeling completely sure of what I'm signing up for...
Omei Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 So I'm a 26 year old guy. Kinda youngish looking - I still get carded at liquor stores/clubs and workmates like to joke about how I look younger. I've only had a tiny amount of success with women - had a very short-term girlfriend and a couple of one-night-stands. This is probably because I'm a bit less socially skilled, funny and confident than most men. I also find it hard to seduce women who I'm not emotionally attracted to, and to be emotionally attracted, they have to be fairly youngish (at least my age or younger) and reasonably good looking (I don't mind bigger girls, but at least they have to have a nice face). Problem is, I'm wondering if I'm going to end up with even less luck as I start to look older. I've heard that some women are into older men, but those might be women I find unattractive. Maybe only older women are attracted to older men? Would this mean I can only date 30-40 year olds? I guess I just want some general thoughts from people on what it's like to be an older man, and whether the opportunities get lesser, greater or just stay the same? I am a 27 year old fem im a sucker for very pretty young guys age doesn't matter its that face that is just so pretty that gets me, but they usually arnt ready for what I want, real love to marriage so then comes in the older man again age doesn't matter some guys age with just I dont know every line happens to be right like say Liam Nelson and he's twice my age. Young or Old they each have their goods and bads what you will find in life that I have learned, is personality I have been with 3 men in my life all long term and I can tell you only one of them I found sexy right away I fell in love with the others and somehow they became attractive to me just with their personalitys one day they were crazy hot. You will find someone that likes you for you and you for them and then looks will just not matter.
skydiveaddict Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 I guess I just want some general thoughts from people on what it's like to be an older man, and whether the opportunities get lesser, greater or just stay the same? They stay the same. And your sexual desire only leaves when you keel over dead.
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