30buzz1 Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 (edited) It's been about 7months since my breakup and at times I feel im doing great but then it hits me and everything comes back into my mind. I was friends with this girl for four yrs and we dated for 10 months; I loved her and I treated her right. Every time she needed help I was there, when she was sick i was there, when she was in the hospital for four days i was there everyday, always got her gifts and buy and made her food. There were times that I couldn't take her places because Im in school, I work, and have to help my family; also that I didn't have a car but I would try and make it up by doing all those others things like making her food, damn even my mother made her food when I was going to see her and was too busy. She even cheated on me twice and begged for forgiveness and I took her back; there were even times she wanted to end it and even though it was tough for me I agreed to it and let her go and she would after a couple days want to come back, and I let her back. She was started to hang out with this guy and I didn't think anything of it or tried not to (because I dont want to be that guy) and one day I was walking in a snow storm with food and when I got there she didnt want to hang anymore (before she was hanging with him), and I asked if everything was ok and she got so defensive. I broke up with her because she said I treat her like **** (and that pissed me off); she later on asked me to come over and she told me that she was seeing that guy and kissed him when i was bringing her food. Weeks after I wrote a fb status, saying about everything that happen but didnt say her name and i was actually still nice about it all (didnt even call her a b*ch or a whore), just saying how it hurt but I will get better one day. Days later she texted (i deleted her from fb) saying that im so immature and how dare i write a status about what happened and that was it. I havent look at her fb or any other of her social network sites, nor have i talked to her in 7 months. It just bothers me because she with the guy still and is in love. I find it so unfair that she gets to hurt people and still find love, and I'm stuck trying to find one date. I dont know what im asking, I guess I just need advice or guidance. Edited August 18, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Philosoraptor Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 You sound very bitter and overly concerned with her and what's going on in her life. Everyone deserves to be happy, but it is up to each and every one of us to take control of our own live and make our own happiness. Stop focusing on her, who cares what is going on in her life? You need to correct your issues. You allowed yourself to be walked upon for months and feel like she deserves to be punished, and you rewarded, for what you went through. She may be cheating on him and miserable, or she may live happily ever after with him. Either way, it doesn't effect your life one bit. Take control of yourself and make your own happiness.
Author 30buzz1 Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 Im not bitter or too concerned with her life. i am trying to move on, i just feel that its not right how people get away with hurting others, and im not the first she hurt. Yea I was dumb letting her hurt me, and will not happen again; I would never want to be "rewarded" or her to have true "punishment" but if someone hurt you and got away with it, wouldnt you be upset about it?
Author 30buzz1 Posted August 19, 2013 Author Posted August 19, 2013 but i do understand what your saying though and I do agree with most you say and thank you. it did help
Philosoraptor Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Im not bitter or too concerned with her life. i am trying to move on, i just feel that its not right how people get away with hurting others, and im not the first she hurt. Yea I was dumb letting her hurt me, and will not happen again; I would never want to be "rewarded" or her to have true "punishment" but if someone hurt you and got away with it, wouldnt you be upset about it? "To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it." - Confucius The moment you leave the past in the past, is the moment you will find peace with the situation.
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