stabilizing or not into me... again?

[what's up with that]

Well I've been in this relationship for 4 years. He has been a roller coaster ride ever since our first break up. He broke up with me because he was giving way more than me in the relationship. Few months later we made up but he was distant, not as attentive, all simple gestures of love were also missing and he wasn't as caring (verbally and in actions). He was a guy of four calls + a day, wanted to see me every day, paid a lot attention to details and was always attentive of my needs (taking me to places I had to go, wishing me luck on important things, called a lot and was interested in my things).

 

Anyways, two years of waiting for him to change, he did. He left me again, simply put he was not that into me anymore. He became very awful those few months but eventually we came back together again. And this time he was great! He was the guy I had been waiting for all those years, very happy for both of us. But few months later he had to travel abroad for three months because of his work. During that time we did great until we didn't. We had a small argument and he shut himself down again. Few weeks later we talked things through and are ok. .

 

I talked same day he arrived about what happened (he was really happy to see me afterwards not so excited although he did talked things through, I could've waited but I was going to explode). But the problem is he's back to the distant guy again. He has assured me he's not talking to anyone and says he still sees us for the long term but he's sketchy about future plans. Says general things but no specific plans, not so many calls during the day, not too caring but not in zero as before either and he's not too eager to see me (although it's different than before, it's not overwhelmingly distant).

 

Also things in the bedroom are more physical not as passionate. Any idea of what's up?

Edited August 18, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator