keepontruckin Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 By no means a scientific study, but I'm curious as to the outcome of any input provided in this thread. By "initiated," I mean who asked whom out first in the beginning... You know, someone had taken the first step... It's never "mutual" per se. You know what I mean. And the second step is, which party left the relationship? Which one walked? I'll start! My soon to be ex wife was the one that asked me out, and she is also the one that is walking away from the marriage. 1
JDPT Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 I initiated the relationship after roughly 6 weeks of friendship and knowing we felt more than just friends. However, my situation is way too complicated. But to answer your questions after 4 years she decided to end the relationship roughly 3.5 months ago and this is now where I stand.
HumptyDumpty Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 This is interesting! I mostly initiated by chasing him! And it was me who finally broke the relationship up! Although I have to add, it could have been him, was more of a mutual thing since things just didn't work out anymore and it was me who drew the conclusion... 1
Nerona Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 He initiated and I left, finally (not for having lost my love for him but for his damn egocentrism).
ro1978 Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 I initiated the relationship (though she added me on social media first), and she ended it somewhat suddenly after 9 months of being engaged. While I am curious what the numbers at loveshack are, I believe there ares studies showing that around 70% of the time women end the relationship, with men initiating about 90% of heterosexual relationships (though women often give strong hints to a man they find attractive so they will get asked out - so that one stat is always tricky to really get at).
Misfortune Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 Ex wife iniated and she ended it in a cruel fashion. I was shy, afraid of getting hurt in another relationship, she kept pushing, gave the "I'll never hurt you" speech and then left for someone else less than 6 months after marriage. So, ya, I'm done with relationships for a few years. 1
Nicoleiia Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 She initiated it after knowing me for a year. She confessed that she had a crush on me and wanted a relationship, soon after she talks about marriage. Then, she dumps me. I didn't even want her at first. This is so unfair. Why do they start it just to end it????? 1
Misfortune Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 She initiated it after knowing me for a year. She confessed that she had a crush on me and wanted a relationship, soon after she talks about marriage. Then, she dumps me. I didn't even want her at first. This is so unfair. Why do they start it just to end it????? Don't you hate that? They push and push until you find yourself falling for them too. It's probably all about the chase to them. They got what seemed like a challenge and decided to move on to the next chase.
Nicoleiia Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 Don't you hate that? They push and push until you find yourself falling for them too. It's probably all about the chase to them. They got what seemed like a challenge and decided to move on to the next chase. Yea, its awful. I feel like this is a cruel joke. It's almost comical how they pursue and tell you sweet nothings, just to pull the plug afterwards. And now we are left holding the bag. But, I know one thing. I definitely know the signs for when someone isn't in love with me and is pulling my leg. If a person talks about love and marriage early on in a relationship, its a red flag. It means, for the most part, they are lying through their teeth and have some sort of agenda! Now I know better. 2
Flower1993 Posted August 20, 2013 Posted August 20, 2013 Yeah that happened to me too! I thought i was very wary n declined when he was askin me out but in the end i gave in due to his persistence! Then when I started to get attached n fall for him he said he couldnt be in a relationship! he stringed me along thats y i cut all ties with that coward! 3
OverThinker72 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 My ex pursued me, for months. There was no attraction from my part at the beginning but I slowly begun to fall in love with him. I fell in love with my best friend, because that is what he was. He ended it. Not even the friendship survived. 1
Viro12 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 She initiated it, she pursued it, I pushed it off, she made me believe, I fell, she ended it. Then she tells me, she loved me out of convenience. 2
RiceaRoni Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 First major relationship: he asked, and ended it. Recent guy: asked, and then ended it....multiple times. 1
barky2 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 I started , I ended. I chased she wanted no part of it. Then she chased me. Happily ever after. Barky
hotpotato Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 They initiated and they left. For other women. Both times. After I did all the work. Im in the same boat as everyone else. Why break it off when they initiated? Why break something you built? Its like if I nurture my garden with my blood, sweat, and tears. Then I tear it down for no good reason. Maybe we are catching the commitmentphobes. They want to look normal by being in a relationship. Deeper commitment is on the horizon and they bail. 2
hotpotato Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 I initiated the relationship (though she added me on social media first), and she ended it somewhat suddenly after 9 months of being engaged. While I am curious what the numbers at loveshack are, I believe there ares studies showing that around 70% of the time women end the relationship, with men initiating about 90% of heterosexual relationships (though women often give strong hints to a man they find attractive so they will get asked out - so that one stat is always tricky to really get at). Are those numbers for marriage or for relationships in general? Ive seen the 70% in reference to divorce. Anyways, I would be the exception. Im a girl who gets dumped.
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