Ninaaa Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 (edited) So I met this guy abt 3 years ago and since then we've had such a great time together .. he was madly in love with me and so I was .. many times he told me I'm his "the one". Problems started abt 6 months ago .. I started to think that he doesn't love the way he used to .. through a long distance however, he did his best .. he sent me photos of himself and made cards for any occasions for me .. didn't forget any occasions and he made some of his own to make me happy e.g. the annivesary of our first text message he told his family abt me except his father, he thought its too early to tell him .. my father wanted to meet him n he came to our house n dad gave him 3 years to make things prepared for a marriage .. n of course he wanted me as his wife .. We had many arguments since I thought he is not in love with me anymore .. I was wrong however .. he still said poems for me n did many things for me but the distance between us made it worse .. i saw him every 3 months!! On the other hand, whenever we argued he tried to solve things out but after these arguments became frequent, he started to question our relationship .. he could do a lot more to solve things ..he never apologized n tried to show he's always right .. didnt try to meet my needs n said i am like this n amnot gonna change .. i know i made a lot of mistakes too but i always apologized .. 10 days ago we had our last argument n he broke up with me .. said he's fed up with our arguments n sees no future in us .. i begged him to give me a second chance to make things up for i'm in trouble with my own life right now .. he said i'm done with it .. i cried my heart out .. our love meant a lot to me, i fainted in my father's arms n i was crying n screaming the whole night .. he sent a message to see how i am the next day .. i told him i'm fine n i'm thinking abt what u said .. for he asked me to think abt what he said ..I also sent him my blog's address which i wrote for abt 3 years .... all our good memories npoems n photos n all .. i decided to do NC to heal my broken heart n i just checked his IP ..everyday he read a month of my blog .. i had 4 other blogs which were mine .. i changed their address so he couldnt have access to them .. i was not comfortable if he read me ... so after 10 days, when i deleted my blogs he sent me a message that I wanna talk to u, would u come over? I couldnt go .. my heart still aches of what he told me that night but he was the love of my life n i know i may regret it one day .. i didnt reply even .. i just cried the whole night for our pure love which is gone .. at least from my heart .. i loved him with all my soul but he did me wrong .. i begged him for a second chance n h didnt even care .. what should i do? im confused .. i have mixed feelings towards him Edited August 18, 2013 by Ninaaa
what's up with that Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 I think you're doing exactly what you need to do. You didn't insist after he said goodbye and he came back. I think he was just fed up with the fights but he definitely cares for you. Distance does worn people out and he got a bit distant himself but you said he still did nice things for you. So it doesn't seem so bad. You probably need to work on how you say things to him, it's great that you communicate your concerns but don't do it in a way that's accusing. Men hate that. Do it more in a "team" kind of way even if you're doing your part. Nobody likes to be the reason that something isn't working even though it's true, they don't like to be singled out and reminded constantly. If you still love him, go and LISTEN. Work from there, if you like what you hear, give it a go if you don't well... you know. All the best. 1
Author Ninaaa Posted August 18, 2013 Author Posted August 18, 2013 You r right .. I have to talk to him at last but I'm just too hurt by him that I can't .. I feel nothing is gonna get better by the things he told me .. BTW, when he was saying goodbye to me I begged him! I told him we can make this work.together .. but he was so sure abt it ! he texted me again tonight .. said did u receive my message last night? or u dun wanna reply? I feel so humiliated that I cant get into a conversation with him .. he acts as if I'm the dumper !
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