Buttercup84 Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 I recently had a date, and my gut kept telling me that his attention was with someone else the whole time. From what I read on his social networking accounts, ( yes, I looked before we met up) ,he has feelings for someone and it is only one sided. I still went on the date, because I could have been wrong too. My opinion is that he asked me out to either make his love interest jealous, to try and get over her etc. I could ask him, but as I no longer have any interest in perusing anything with him, I will just leave it. We are still in occasional contact, but not in a romantic way. Hs anyone else been on a date where the person was into someone else ?
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 In your situation I wouldn't have went on the date...would be a big turn-off to see a potential romantic interest flirting and showing strong interest towards another person, that would just back me off immediately...personally. I think I have unwittingly been shown off by some women...not necessarily because I'm the most handsome/godly man on the planet but talk, dark and handsome enough with other attractive qualities to maybe look like a good-catch to her friends or what not...I don't have an attention whore account for my Facebook, I just have one I use for close friends and family, so it's not a social media thing...homie don't play that.
Author Buttercup84 Posted August 18, 2013 Author Posted August 18, 2013 In your situation I wouldn't have went on the date...would be a big turn-off to see a potential romantic interest flirting and showing strong interest towards another person, that would just back me off immediately...personally. I think I have unwittingly been shown off by some women...not necessarily because I'm the most handsome/godly man on the planet but talk, dark and handsome enough with other attractive qualities to maybe look like a good-catch to her friends or what not...I don't have an attention whore account for my Facebook, I just have one I use for close friends and family, so it's not a social media thing...homie don't play that. I honestly want to date someone who does not use social media that much, mine are very private. He was not really flirting with other girls, just very open with his feelings and his accounts are public. Anyway, being shown off that way is not bad ! Take is as a compliment
white Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 I have. My last relationship began with her seeing a number of other men at the same time. I didn't like it but there it is. She had a very odd attitude about these things and would regularly have her suitors round for minor gatherings. I'd been to these before we got 'involved' and thought how weird and awkward it must be for these chumps. Then she did it while she was seeing me as well. She deliberately played us against each other, making sure the other guys knew she was seeing me, and that I lived right next door and was round or out with her daily (I was) while they tended to float past weekly or every few weeks. I found it extremely awkward and really weird and so did they. So I said that to her, to all of them, and left - I wasn't exactly invested in it since she was seeing other guys so I wasn't about to take **** like that, happy to forget about her. She came round the next day, apologised for not thinking, and I don't know what she said or did but the other guys melted away over the next month. With hindsight, I think she needed a lesson in mature relationships, and men who weren't schlubs, and I must have been the first guy who wasn't happy to just drop in and out, and preferred exclusivity. 1
StanMusial Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 I have. My last relationship began with her seeing a number of other men at the same time. I didn't like it but there it is. She had a very odd attitude about these things and would regularly have her suitors round for minor gatherings. I'd been to these before we got 'involved' and thought how weird and awkward it must be for these chumps. Then she did it while she was seeing me as well. She deliberately played us against each other, making sure the other guys knew she was seeing me, and that I lived right next door and was round or out with her daily (I was) while they tended to float past weekly or every few weeks. I found it extremely awkward and really weird and so did they. So I said that to her, to all of them, and left - I wasn't exactly invested in it since she was seeing other guys so I wasn't about to take **** like that, happy to forget about her. She came round the next day, apologised for not thinking, and I don't know what she said or did but the other guys melted away over the next month. With hindsight, I think she needed a lesson in mature relationships, and men who weren't schlubs, and I must have been the first guy who wasn't happy to just drop in and out, and preferred exclusivity. Classic example of a drama queen.
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 No, but I had a girl in high school tell me to sit next to her on the bus and talk to her because she didn't want this creepy guy talking to her (apparently he had a crush on her, which I also secretly did).
white Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 Classic example of a drama queen. Actually she was very far from that. Perhaps it merely comes off that way with the brief details I've given, there was far more to her.
gaius Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 Not on a date, but I had one pig of an ex-girlfriend who go out of her way to talk to me whenever the next dude wasn't paying attention to her. He had a competitive thing with me so whenever she did that he would start paying more attention to her. After about the third time I figured it out. Sorry to hear that buttercup, that must be painful even if you've only been on one date.
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