Amethystic Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Actually I was what she expected in person...but, you know...some people think they can do better...then better...then better. lol How do you know you were what she expected? You might think so, but it's impossible to know how she perceived you.
KathyM Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 I'm going to be a little nitpicky and take a wild guess that something within your text turned her off. Although it sounds like she was into it during the date, probably not to the extent that you would have liked, and then when you told her to text you to let you know she got home OK, you said you didn't respond until sometime later, and then came on with another dating invite right away. There's something in that scenario that didn't come off right. When you asked her to text you to let you know she got home allright, that sounded like a very considerate thing to do on your part, but when she did it, you didn't answer for awhile. It's as if you only said that to impress her, since you didn't respond when she let you know that she arrived home OK. That would have been the time to text her "Great. I really enjoyed seeing you and spending time with you. I'll be in touch and we'll plan something fun, maybe for the weekend. Have a nice night." Or something like that. You didn't respond when she texted that she got home OK, and later on went right into the rush for another date. That might have been offputting or came across as somehow desperate. That would be my guess. Maybe I'm grasping at straws, but if she seemed really into the date, and then went cold on you shortly thereafter, I'm thinking it was something between the end of the date and when she went cold that turned her off. Just a possibility to consider. Either that, or she's a very good actress who was just pretending to be into you during the date. Not likely that if a girl is really into you, she suddenly goes cold for no reason. 1
FitChick Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 After the film, did you guys discuss it? A real movie buff would chat about the actors, the director, how this was better/worse than another film, you wish so and so would star in something good for a change, etc. See if you get a second date before drawing any firm conclusions. Since she likes movies, you always have an excuse to ask her to come to your house to watch a DVD.
Pistol pete Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 I would say probably most of the women on these sites are just attention seekers. A girl I met and dated from OLD, was back online the day after we decided to end things. When I called her on it, her response was that she just wanted guys to tell her she was pretty. A friend of my friend's wife apparently has them lined up, sometimes will see three in a day, one after the other. Has also been known to stand up after 10 minutes and say 'I'm not feeling this' and leave.
Lansing Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 I'm going to be a little nitpicky and take a wild guess that something within your text turned her off. Although it sounds like she was into it during the date, probably not to the extent that you would have liked, and then when you told her to text you to let you know she got home OK, you said you didn't respond until sometime later, and then came on with another dating invite right away. I think you should re-read what he posted. He said "He" would text her later to make sure she got in ok. He did text her and she responded "yes I did" or whatever. End of texting conversation. Then he texted later about the invite. Maybe a blunt response from her end without any further discussion but maybe she isn't a big texter. I wouldn't write her off completely. Worth giving her a call. At the same time, I would keep meeting other people. Expand your horizons outside of online dating.
KathyM Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 I think you should re-read what he posted. He said "He" would text her later to make sure she got in ok. He did text her and she responded "yes I did" or whatever. End of texting conversation. Then he texted later about the invite. Maybe a blunt response from her end without any further discussion but maybe she isn't a big texter. I wouldn't write her off completely. Worth giving her a call. At the same time, I would keep meeting other people. Expand your horizons outside of online dating. I reread the OP. He said he would text her to see if she got home allright. He didn't text her. Instead, she texted him to say she got home allright, and he didn't respond right away. He later texted her to invite her out on another date. She may have been put off by that--that he did not text her like he said he would to see if she got home OK. He did not respond to her text right away when she let him know she got home OK. Instead, he texted later to invite her on another date. Something about that may have been offputting to her. Like his display of chivalry was just a ploy/not sincere, and that he's already putting her on the spot for another date. I know I'm grasping at straws here. I'm just trying to figure out why the woman went from hot to cold in one night, when the only thing between the hot and cold was a couple of texts. That's why I'm thinking it has something to do with the texts, or lack thereof. In any case, I would suggest calling her on the phone later in the week and inviting her to do something for the weekend (make it specific). Too soon to write this one off as uninterested. She may have just been preoccupied with whatever issue she was dealing with. 1
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