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I love him, I miss him. I think about him everyday and still dream at night sometimes about reconciling with him. They are very happy dreams, until I wake up.

 

I wish I knew how to get over this. It's been 10 months almost to the day. His birthday is soon. He doesn't think about me or regret anything. I don't know how I'll ever be as bewitched with someone else as I was with him. He was a vision of perfection in my eyes. I was only 18, he was early 20s.

 

Any tips or thoughts? Thanks everyone :love:

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I love him, I miss him. I think about him everyday and still dream at night sometimes about reconciling with him. They are very happy dreams, until I wake up.

 

I wish I knew how to get over this. It's been 10 months almost to the day. His birthday is soon. He doesn't think about me or regret anything. I don't know how I'll ever be as bewitched with someone else as I was with him. He was a vision of perfection in my eyes. I was only 18, he was early 20s.

 

Any tips or thoughts? Thanks everyone :love:

 

Do you still keep in contact?

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Do you still keep in contact?

 

No. Guilty of 'checking up on him' sometimes though. But that was only recently for some reason.

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I know how you feel. It's been 8 months for me. I still am not convinced I will ever have a truly fulfilling relationship...

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I know how you feel. It's been 8 months for me. I still am not convinced I will ever have a truly fulfilling relationship...

 

Yeah, exactly. It's like, that person made you laugh and smile like no one else, your stomach was in knots, you couldn't eat, you had butterflies, when they kissed you nothing else mattered. I still struggle with so much regret. I struggle with the idea of ever finding someone even in the same caliber as him, I've never felt so attracted to someone either. Blah :sick: I make myself sick with my own sap.

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I can relate. I guess the only thing to do is hope that someone else lights up your world again.

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It happens! Even I have weak moments where I just think with my heart, swimming in some nostalgic sh*t and all :laugh:

 

It's normal! And you know why? I guess it's because you haven't been happy since the relationship! So, when you're blue you automatically grab the last happy memories: your ex! How much fun you had, what you did, how he smelled and what not...

If you had a new guy who seems just perfect, those old memories will quick be forgotten since you're too busy creating new ones! :)

 

It's just my theory! Plus, I really love this forum and I do a lot of reading and lately giving some more advice! But you do get stuck a but in this "ex" corner of your mind since it's what we are here for, you see?

 

And well... when I have one of those crappy nostalgic waves crashing down on me, I got my floating crocodile holding me on the surface! I keep reminding myself of what went wrong! Yes, there were good times, I loved them and it's ok to think of them! But then quickly, I think of what went wrong, things that made this perfect world crash down! We were incompatible people! It's even a little sad yes... but well, good thing is that the crappy part stopped with the BU! And that every day I'm working towards a better me and finding the right guy!

 

Don't beat yourself up about it! You may think about him! But not all day, think about him and move on to something else! There's always something to be done yet :bunny:

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It happens! Even I have weak moments where I just think with my heart, swimming in some nostalgic sh*t and all :laugh:

 

It's normal! And you know why? I guess it's because you haven't been happy since the relationship! So, when you're blue you automatically grab the last happy memories: your ex! How much fun you had, what you did, how he smelled and what not...

If you had a new guy who seems just perfect, those old memories will quick be forgotten since you're too busy creating new ones! :)

 

It's just my theory! Plus, I really love this forum and I do a lot of reading and lately giving some more advice! But you do get stuck a but in this "ex" corner of your mind since it's what we are here for, you see?

 

And well... when I have one of those crappy nostalgic waves crashing down on me, I got my floating crocodile holding me on the surface! I keep reminding myself of what went wrong! Yes, there were good times, I loved them and it's ok to think of them! But then quickly, I think of what went wrong, things that made this perfect world crash down! We were incompatible people! It's even a little sad yes... but well, good thing is that the crappy part stopped with the BU! And that every day I'm working towards a better me and finding the right guy!

 

Don't beat yourself up about it! You may think about him! But not all day, think about him and move on to something else! There's always something to be done yet :bunny:

 

This.

 

And you should stop checking up on him. It's only reopened wounds and doesn't allow you to let go.

 

For all of you who don't think you'll ever be able to let go, it's not true. Most people go through at least one of those in their life. Eventually you get over them

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Yeah, exactly. It's like, that person made you laugh and smile like no one else, your stomach was in knots, you couldn't eat, you had butterflies, when they kissed you nothing else mattered. I still struggle with so much regret. I struggle with the idea of ever finding someone even in the same caliber as him, I've never felt so attracted to someone either. Blah :sick: I make myself sick with my own sap.

 

 

Arrghh I relate to this so well it makes me sick.

 

I've often thought if this is pretty much the end of the line for me, which is absurd because I'm only in my early 20's, but it feels like that.

 

She was beautiful (to me), and we had everything in common. I think about my success with dating before her -- Zero. I think about how crazy it is that we even met in the first place. the fact that we ever met was hands down the greatest thing that had ever happened to me in my life. My childhood was kind of bad, and in my teens I dabbled with suicide. She saved me from a lot, and was the first person that ever made me really care about where my life was headed. as a result of her being in my life, I became a stronger human being because of her presence.

 

To have a person who helped shape me to be the person that I am rip my soul out and wipe her ass with it was the most crushing thing I have ever experienced in my entire life. I have seen a lot of hardship, but every experience pales in comparison to the last month of my life.

 

 

I guess my biggest fear is not finding someone else, but being too scared to put myself out there again, and possibly experience this feeling twice.

 

 

 

You're not contacting him, so you're already stronger than you can imagine. I really hope you feel better soon. Nobody should have to feel like this.

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I love him, I miss him. I think about him everyday and still dream at night sometimes about reconciling with him. They are very happy dreams, until I wake up.

 

I wish I knew how to get over this. It's been 10 months almost to the day. His birthday is soon. He doesn't think about me or regret anything. I don't know how I'll ever be as bewitched with someone else as I was with him. He was a vision of perfection in my eyes. I was only 18, he was early 20s.

 

Any tips or thoughts? Thanks everyone :love:

 

I've got a whole decade on you, and I know the feeling all too well. You are so young and have so much ahead of you. Whether you realize this or not, but you're going to meet incredible people from this point on. People you would neverrrrrrrr dream of meeting. And this crappy feeling will happen again. And then you will meet someone even more mind blowing, and you could end up with that person for the rest of your life. You never know. Just keep your head up. Do things that make you happy. The key point: do you and be happy. Hope you feel better soon :bunny:

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