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Adele0908

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Adele0908 Established Member

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I have had my vagina monopolized by a man I wasn't married to and I'm fed up! lol

 

If I'm not married, I'm single. I'm not saying I want to sleep around, but I don't understand being committed to someone without real commitment.

What's the point? If we are not married, we are just FWB with a fancy title.

 

Help me understand.

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And married you're still FWB with a fancy title.

 

Marriage is a title as well but you have a lot of other shiny things to remind you of it, and other people. No I'm not married, never was, and I'm not against it.

 

I just think a relationship or engagement can be as solid as any marriage..

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And married you're still FWB with a fancy title.

 

Marriage is a title as well but you have a lot of other shiny things to remind you of it, and other people. No I'm not married, never was, and I'm not against it.

 

I just think a relationship or engagement can be as solid as any marriage..

 

What you think of a man or woman who is just dating or sleeping with someone exclusively, and a better option comes along, and they decide to seize that opportunity?

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I have had my vagina monopolized by a man I wasn't married to and I'm fed up! lol

 

Way to find a way to not be classy. That's a few points off of your credibility.

 

If I'm not married, I'm single. I'm not saying I want to sleep around, but I don't understand being committed to someone without real commitment.

What's the point? If we are not married, we are just FWB with a fancy title.

 

Help me understand.

 

People commit in relationships to see if someone is commitment-worthy in marriages.

 

With your line of thinking, there's no reason to get married either. Might as well just have 24/7 orgies for the rest of your life (well, until you hit the wall, that is).

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HoneyBadgerDontCare Established Member

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what you think of a man or woman who is just dating or sleeping with someone exclusively, and a better option comes along, and they decide to seize that opportunity?

 

Here's what I think when I see this:

 

ABORT! ABORT! Not marriage material!

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Sarabi Established Member

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What you think of a man or woman who is just dating or sleeping with someone exclusively, and a better option comes along, and they decide to seize that opportunity?

 

Better option how? :confused:

Better dates or better sex? Lol :laugh:

And...are they leaving the one they are exclusive with to pursue the said better option?

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What you think of a man or woman who is just dating or sleeping with someone exclusively, and a better option comes along, and they decide to seize that opportunity?

 

Savvy. A bit of an opportunistic prick/bitch, but you could also say they looking after their best long term interests.

I reckon quite a few people do this, but those in long term 'unmarried' relationships are less likely to as time goes on and they get cozy/lazy or just basically they are happy because most of their wants/needs are getting met, but not getting married means they can get a simple exit if the need should ever arise. If they have had numerous failed relationships then they can't exactly be sure what the future holds.

* Some people are always on the lookout for the bigger better deal.

* Some will jump because they are bored with the current relationship and want the excitement of falling in love again (not opportunistic).

* Some will jump because when they they entered the relationship it was the best they could do at the time, or they didn't want to be alone or rushed into it based on the 'amazing chemistry' only to find out later that does not always mean a great long term partner or their partner changed. Somewhat opportunistic

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I have had my vagina monopolized by a man I wasn't married to and I'm fed up! lol

 

I've felt that at many times there is truth to the "Why buy the cow when the milk is free" statement.

 

The answer is to not go beyond your own boundaries without a true commitment

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If you can't commit without the piece of paper you won't be able to commit with one.

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Adele0908 Established Member

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Here's what I think when I see this:

 

ABORT! ABORT! Not marriage material!

 

lol.

 

that's fine.

 

Or maybe they just aren't the person for you.

 

and they never were meant to be for you.

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Better option how? :confused:

Better dates or better sex? Lol :laugh:

And...are they leaving the one they are exclusive with to pursue the said better option?

 

A better fit and better connection. A better match.

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I've felt that at many times there is truth to the "Why buy the cow when the milk is free" statement.

 

The answer is to not go beyond your own boundaries without a true commitment

 

That's ridiculous because it's not 1875

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That's ridiculous because it's not 1875

 

I don't think it is ridiculous.....

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Help me understand.

 

I was trying to from my point of view, but you can't hear me.....

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If we are not married, we are just FWB with a fancy title.

 

Help me understand.

There's nothing to explain or understand. You're not committed to your relationship so why are you in it?
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There's single, in a relationship, and married. Single is not the same thing as being in a relationship.

 

If you love someone truly, you aren't going to WANT anyone else's penis.

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Radu Established Member

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What you think of a man or woman who is just dating or sleeping with someone exclusively, and a better option comes along, and they decide to seize that opportunity?

 

I think they are scum, but don't let that stop you from doing it.

 

I'm just some anonymous guy on the net.

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I have had my vagina monopolized by a man I wasn't married to and I'm fed up! lol

 

If I'm not married, I'm single. I'm not saying I want to sleep around, but I don't understand being committed to someone without real commitment.

What's the point? If we are not married, we are just FWB with a fancy title.

 

Help me understand.

 

Don't go into relationships if you have no ****ing clue what they entail.

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I'm in a relationship and have been monopolizing a penis for seven years now.

 

He asks me to marry him all the time. I say no.

 

His poor penis :/

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I have had my vagina monopolized by a man I wasn't married to and I'm fed up! lol

 

If I'm not married, I'm single. I'm not saying I want to sleep around, but I don't understand being committed to someone without real commitment.

What's the point? If we are not married, we are just FWB with a fancy title.

 

Help me understand.

 

From a legal stand point if you're not married you're single.

 

But that's not how lived-relationships work. There is an agreed upon commitment, a practical commitment and emotional commitment for people in their serious Rs before they marry. They usually take themselves off the market emotionally and physically and are invested in that one person. They aren't uncommitted and then only after the ink dries on the wedding day or at the court house are they committed. People usually marry because a show of commitment and not wanting others has existed previously and the marriage aspect just makes it legal or public and is an official declaration that you are no longer single, but in a publicly acknowledged union/partnership.

 

Anyway, I don't see the harm in feeling this way for yourself, although I don't understand how you'd get to a point of "real commitment" or marriage if you feel single until after the wedding. :confused:

 

For me, when I'm dating, I am single. I am free to date casually and not have to answer to any one person. However, in dating, when I find a man I am really into and can see a future with, it naturally happens that he monopolizes my time and head space and I just have no desire to date others, even if I can. It is at that point that, if we're on the same page, we agree to exclusivity and monogamy and that agreement is very real and changes how we act and feel within the relationship versus when I'm just casually dating. A FWB for me is not something I invest in or see leading to any increased levels of commitment, like marriage. However, my exclusive bf is someone I invest in and work towards increased commitment like marriage.

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Woggle Established Member

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People who think like this usually don't magically become faithful upon marriage. The foundation for a happy marriage is built before you tie the knot and this attitude is not building a good foundation.

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OP will change her tune next time a guy she likes cheats on her or gives her the "we're not married" line & proceeds to slay his way through her social circle.

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