How can a woman tell if a man is a flake or is really interested

[MJGeorgia]

I want to start off by saying I have very little dating experience. So please keep that in mind. How can a woman tell if a man is a flake/player or is he really interested?

 

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[truth_seeker]

I say it comes down to his actions over his words.

[salparadise]

I want to start off by saying I have very little dating experience. So please keep that in mind. How can a woman tell if a man is a flake/player or is he really interested?

 

Get him naked and sex him up real good. If he keep coming back, brings chocolates, and whispers sweet nothings, then he's not a flake/player.

[MJGeorgia]

Get him naked and sex him up real good. If he keep coming back, brings chocolates, and whispers sweet nothings, then he's not a flake/player.

 

Isn't your answer childish?

 

I was referring to what signs/red flags might he give.

[365daysgone]

I would say trying to make a move on the first 5 dates? I don't even get people kissing by the second date...seems pretty quick to me. You can tell by him trying to get physical contact when you are clearly uncomfortable and he continues to try for it.

[Axee]

This is a very difficult question to answer.. I have been struggling with this always.. Guys who seemed genuine seemed to flake out , guys who seemed flaky tended to be serious..

 

I wud say yes "Actions definetly matter over words" and consistency , trust and respect over a good period of time would give you the results.

 

Also, another advice is to "Not trust any guy" too soon, else you will end up giving your heart to him whereas he will be in a different page altogether..

 

Go slow, do not overthink, do not give importance to words,be friends first, focus on your life , make the guy a part of your life and not your whole life..do not play games , at the same time, do not make him your focus and keep initiating things..