templeofmax Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 So about a month and a half ago I saw a website about a ´relationship coach´and in my desperation and anxiety after 2 months of BU called him up and spent $90 for an hour of telling him private **** about my relationship and he telling me the same BS he tells everybody. So I said I used to involve my ex´s family in some of our issues and he is like if you get back, don´t involve others´. Sure, Sherlock, thanks for that. Another nugget was ´in the next call after 4-6 weeks of NC I´ll teach you what kind of text to send about asking something unrelated to the relationship of the BU´. Yeah, right, because my ex is an idiot and won´t figure it out and even if she answers, so freaking what. After a day or so, I felt like the biggest idiot on the planet. Not really violated, because I was the ******* that spent money on a freaking scam artist that takes advantage of people´s vulnerability and anxiety. I felt bad for telling private **** to a complete stranger, and for throwing $90 to the garbage, but more than that, for deluding myself in thinking a complete stranger can give me advice on getting my ex back, when the only one that can do that is HER. Worse, all the BS he told me I had read already online for free. I learned the hard and expensive way that NC is THE only way to heal first of all, and second of all, to have any chance of future reconciliation by showing the ex I respect her, and by making myself unavailable. It MAY work, but the other possibility is continuing hurting myself and pushing her further away by sending stupid texts and using manipulation to ´tap into the female psych´ while letting her know I am still here like a puppy dog. If she is for me she will be and I am not giving up the fight, but only when I am ready and not by using stupid maneuvers as if people were identical machines that can be ´attracted back´. Anxiety REALLY ****s one up. Be careful all the newbies out there as anxiety is what makes us do stupid **** that leads to breakups and post-breakup behavior that can make some other ******* rich from our pain. I am going to become a ´relationship guru´!! EASY MONEY!!!
kayjay85 Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 wow i have to say i havent but i can understand why you did it and i understand why there are people out there that do this. Simple they know we are desperate to get our exes back they know we are emotionly unstable and vulnerable. dont feel any shame in what you done. Id probably have done it if i had the money. Anthing that i thought would have brought my ex back. 1
jaymz Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 I don't know if they are *all* bad: I contacted one in my darkest moment and explained everything that had happened, he basically told me there was more chance of hell freezing over than me getting my ex back and then gave me a full refund! Was an eye opener! 3
Author templeofmax Posted August 18, 2013 Author Posted August 18, 2013 That must have been a hell of a breakup you had for this person to say that to you.
Heysimon Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 I think posting your story right here on this site is one of the best therapy's. You are around supportive honest people and they tell it like it is!! 90.00 isnt bad, I have spent alot more on much worse things.. cigs when I smoked liquor, women.... 1
HumptyDumpty Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 This is crap! And yet you were lucky yet, as already said you weren't a victim of addictions etc... that really f*s a life up! The only money I spent guru-wise was a second-hand book, "it's called a break-up because it's broken" which was money well spent! But I had other weak points, and still have! I spend too much money! A lot of money went on instruments and music or other stuff! It's not that it was wasted money or that I have debts... but I have a tendency to fill the gap in my life with other stuff meant to make me happy! So, don't beat yourself up over this! Everyone has been doing some weird crap at least! 1
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