Sweetgirl28 Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Just in general: what do you guys think about a girl who immediately posts pictures of a first date on facebook and tags the guy. Then makes it her profile pic. And then posts a status and/or picture of every date afterwards? Also, she changed her status to "in a relationship" after only one month and she seems to be the one posting all the pictures and status updates. Note here that although the guy has "accepted" her as his girlfriend on facebook, he still hasn't posted anything about her nor put up a profile picture with her in it. What do you guys think about this?
New User Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 I think that it's none of my damn business what other people post about their relationships on Facebook. 5
The Way I Am Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 How old are you both and which person are you in this situation?
Author Sweetgirl28 Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 We are both 25 and I'm the best friend of the guy who is slightly older. I'm worried about him (don't worry, I don't have any romantic feelings for him).
New User Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 We are both 25 and I'm the best friend of the guy who is slightly older. I'm worried about him (don't worry, I don't have any romantic feelings for him). He's a big boy now. It isn't really any of your business; you can't change the dynamic (whatever it may be) of their relationship anyway. He will be very unlikely to listen to anything that you have to say on the subject. I'd suggest that you just maintain whatever your normal role in his life is and not worry about someone else's FB drama.
Author Sweetgirl28 Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 I'm just worried about him. I know that he likes to take things slowly and that he is always looking for "the one". I highly doubt this is "the one" for him because this girl goes against all of his expectations: no bachelors degree, many tattoos, foreign, bad spelling, etc. Also, she has introduced him to all of her friends whereas we - as his friends - never get to see him anymore. I haven't even met this girl.
New User Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 I'm just worried about him. I know that he likes to take things slowly and that he is always looking for "the one". I highly doubt this is "the one" for him because this girl goes against all of his expectations: no bachelors degree, many tattoos, foreign, bad spelling, etc. Also, she has introduced him to all of her friends whereas we - as his friends - never get to see him anymore. I haven't even met this girl. I'll resist the temptation to comment on that reading more like you listing a catalog of your prejudices than his expectations (wait, I guess i won't). Maybe he's just taking a walk on the wild side, or maybe she's giving him that certain "je ne sais quoi" that your average boring yuppy simply doesn't have. Again, it really isn't any of your business. You can't change it or force him to date someone that you view as more acceptable and from what you've posted here it doesn't even sound like you know what is going on in their relationship. There could be many reasons for that- anything from him being embarrassed by her crowd to being embarrassed by your crowd to just not thinking that she'll get along with your crowd to probably a dozen more reasons I can't think of at the moment. I don't really know what you're looking for in responses, but at the end of the day I still hold my original opinion; it isn't your business. You don't get to have veto power over his relationship choices. I'd suggest just dropping it.
Adele0908 Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 It's best not to judge or form an opinion on it. Because you never know the whole story. Just ignore it and stay out of it. 1
hoping2heal Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 I think the girl is trying hard at not getting a second date if that's how she behaves on a first date. Sounds like it might be a friend of yours though so if her behavior doesn't scare him off then maybe she gives amazing blowjobs.
The Way I Am Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Sounds like she's really into your friend or just generally rushes into relationships. He may be really into her and is completely ok with her intensity this soon. If he's not comfortable with it and/or isn't really that into her, it's his business to let her know that or break it off. It's good that you want to look out for your friend, but so far, there doesn't seem to be anything worth worrying about.
Author Sweetgirl28 Posted August 18, 2013 Author Posted August 18, 2013 I totally agree that it's not my business but I'm worried because she seems like a nut case. She has these old facebook statuses in which she is cussing out her ex boyfriend(s) and which are public. She also has pictures up of her feeding beer to a pregnant woman. Not exactly the type of girl my friend would normally be into. Also, I don't understand why everything is suddenly moving so fast. They met, she posted every single move they made on facebook, they made it facebook official after one month and now she keeps posting at least one to two status updates/day about their whereabouts. I know it's not up to me to judge but this girl doesn't come across as very stable. I know my friend has been through a hard time and she may not be the right person for him right now. Also, I'm wondering why he hasn't mentioned her to his friends yet, whereas he became facebook friends with her sister and friends. He doesn't even have profile pic of them together up on facebook which tells me that he isn't too serious about her (yet?).
The Way I Am Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 I guess I don't understand what you're worried about. If you thought he was head over heels for her and he could get hurt because of that, I'd understand. So what is it that you fear will happen to your friend as a result of dating an unstable girl he's not that into who doesn't seem right for him?
Author Sweetgirl28 Posted August 18, 2013 Author Posted August 18, 2013 My friend has an extreme problem with saying "no" to people. This also holds true for his relationships and friendships. I'm afraid that she might force him into doing things he is not ready for. She is definitely very intense on Facebook with posting updates of their whereabouts every single day. I don't know for sure how much he is into her but I can definitely sense that she has the upper hand in things because he wouldn't like a woman who puts their entire business on Facebook.
The Way I Am Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 The only option you have here is to talk to your friend. Ask him how he feels about the relationship and everything being shared publicly. And if he's not happy, you could offer him some friendly advice. But if he is happy, you need to let it drop. Don't try to convince him she's wrong for him, because that'll just drive a wedge between you two.
Menina Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 I think young people need to get the hell out into the REAL world more and quit living their lives by Facebook. My god, how lame. Yes, I'm 24 myself but I dont have much time to spend on the web. I do check FB daily and it's become on of my mediums of communications, however people keep forgetting that FB and other social media are no replacement for personal interactions. About the OP's issue I too have a male best friend for which I care deeply, however as we're both adults and he's completely capable of making his own choices I don't intervene with his dating/love life as long as I don't see him suffering. Your friend doesn't seem to be bothered by the quick pace of his relationship and all you're talking about is especulation based on your prejudiced impressions of this girl (seriously, what if she has tattoos and no B.S., she sounds just like many of my good friends). Just be there for him as you've always been and let him make his own love life choices. Btw, it does sounds like you have some type of feelings for this guy, I don't check my friend's boyfriends/girlfriends FB post and analyze every single detail of their life, it seems obsessive. 1
Author Sweetgirl28 Posted August 18, 2013 Author Posted August 18, 2013 I do not check his profile. These updates keep appearing on my newsfeed. Everytime I log on to Facebook, there is always a new status or picture in which she has tagged him. Since he is listed as one of my "close friends", I get to see all his new updates. My main concern with his situation is that they are moving too fast because she forces herself upon him. I know that he has a problem saying "no", especially with the people he dates. I've always been there for him but I feel like we're losing him this time. She was mean to his brother and he just let it go. Usually, he would never talk to someone again who insults his brother because they're so close too.
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