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Is it Possible for Him to Change Again in College?


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My ex and I really were in love but his feelings for me changed. He still loves me but only as a friend. We've been broken up for about a month and a half. We would have been together for a year and a half on Monday. He still really wants to be friends but he doesnt want me to have any false hope. In my opinion, if you are still deeply in love with someone it's impossible to not have any hope that things will change and you may be together once again. I truly want him to be happy but I also want him to be truly happy with me. We're going off to college this year and I was wondering if it is possible for him to mature in college and fall in love with me again? I believe he has attachment issues due to his parents being divorced. His father is very religous and his mother is with another woman (it's safe to say that the parents pretty much refuse to like eachother). What do you think? If you would like to hear the full story of our relationship I will post it but it's really long.

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It's possible. You have to move on though, as he will as well even more. If you two meet each other again, it's possible for you two to develop the same feelings again, a whole new relationship. He might even contact you first. You never know, you might also stop having these feelings about him as well. It's not necessarily bad IMO as it would give you a chance to move on and not focus on them but on you. Then you could appreciate his friendship more rather than hoping for them to love you again. It's easier said than done I know, but start taking the small steps :)

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honestly i think a little part of me will always love him in that way... i definantly wouldnt wait around forever though. he really really wants to be friends with me because i am still important to him but right now i dont think i can talk to him. i think i need to not contact him for a while so i can heal myself first before thinking of friendship. right now i really have way too impure motives to be his friend... we will probably see each other again since we have basically the same friend group. he was my best friend before we dated but he had liked me for years prior. maybe what happened to me will happen to him. either way i appreciate your opinion honestly :)

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