JengleBells83 Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Ok I will make this as short as I can...so my ex and i started hanging out again about 8 months ago - we tried to get back together once in April (didn't work), but we've remained friends. (he lives 2 hours away so we didn't see eachother much). We talked a lot, had a few ups and downs. Well, about a month ago, we went to a rock concert together - and had an absolute riot. He told me repeatedly that he is so glad we are friends, etc. then he kissed me. He sent me a message the next day and told me that he had a great time too. Well, a few days later, he kind of started doing this disappearing thing - we barely talked, and when I sent him a message asking him about it, he was just like 'oh, we are good, I've just been doing some reflecting', and his fb posts were very dark and sad almost. Anyway, about a week and half later, he was back to his old self - we were talking, etc. He told me that his life has been crazy, and he needed to talk to me about stuff. Everything was good, and I went out and spent 2 days with him. We had a great time then too - he however, then told me that he is polyamorous, and can't do commitment and doesnt want to get married, etc., but he told me twice (while drinking) that he is in love with me. (I know he had slept with this other girl and they were hanging out a few weeks prior.) I thought he just wanted to be friends, so this sorta threw me for a loop. So, drinking led to making out, and making out led to sex. He was all over me at the bar, everywhere. It was fun, but at the end of it, he freaked out on me and started yelling and throwing things at his wall, and then he went and passed out on the couch. (this was not the first time that happened). I didn't do anything, so this confused me greatly. i have seen him do this one other time, and it is usually from drinking too much. I left the next morning, and come to find out, that his manager passed away from his work. He was very upset, and told me not to worry if i don't hear from him for awhile because its sad. So I sent him a message the other nite asking him a question about this concert, then asked him how he was doing, and no response. Until later that day when I asked him if he's not talking to me because of what went down with us, and he was like 'no, but it probably wasn't the best idea to sleep together, i don't want things to get to weird with us again"..and he said that he's not over his manager passing away, and he prolly wouldn't be around to talk for awhile. (i understand that) i expressed that this had me upset, and he didn't seem to care. I don't know how to take any of this, if I should even attempt to be friends with this guy, or what the whole friends to polyamorous to not talking thing is all about. We both agree that we have so much fun together, but it seems that ever since we got back from the concert we went to, that everything has been very weird, and he's been super quiet. Thoughts?
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