Netsky4life Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Hi, I dated a girl for 6 years we had a few on/offs but always came back together. beginning this year we broke up for a month but came back together, soon after that she started making more contact whit friends, which i cheered about because she wasn't very social anymore. One off those friends i never really liked because she has/had totally different ideas then me. At some point (she didnt know i didnt like here) she started to spam my girlfriend almost to do stuff, my girlfriend then always said yes and started to do more and more stuff whitout me which kinda started to frustrate me, end off may i had the feeling we were beeing torn apart by here friend, so i told my girlfriend and we started to have more and more arguments which ended up in a break up. Here telling she didnt have the same feelings anymore, but she knew she still loved me. We broke up for a month in which i fought for here constantly, texting, calling, going to here home. Most unanswered, at one point slowly on i started to care less and i started to meet other people but it wasn't the same. And we live or go out in a small city 30k pop. So most people are formiliar faces, when i was at a bar she i was in town to and came over me and started crying and we kissed again. A few days later we talked about everything and we came back together. We both listened and explained what bothered each other, she promised me that things would change and they did for 1week and a half :s. After that slowly on i started to notice signs that nothing had changed. We booked a trip to italy from 1-10 august and we had an argument the weekend before the trip about this same issue and she told me that nothing was wrong. We almost cancelled the trip but we went anyway. It was a very fun holiday at first, but around the 7th she started to have a moodswing for a reason i stil don't know. while everything was perfectly fine before that. We had some bad wheather the last days rain and stuff and we decided to go 1 day earlier home. That weekend (last one) she went out whit here friends and i whit mine. But a total weekend she didnt seem to have any intrest in me. On sunday we both went to the same place, i wanted to meet up whit here, and we did but she constantly ignored me or went off somewhere else (because off the relationship i have whit here new bff). There were some fireworks going on past sunday and i wanted to see it whit here, so we went together but she was acting very distant. And i exploded kinda we had an argument and me and my friend went off to see other friends. the next day up until thuesday at non we had arguments in text and what not. I wanted to talk to here as adults but she constantly ran away from fb conversations when i was pooring my hart out. and she started to ignore my text/phonecalls. I was getting sick off here behaviour and really in desperare. So i broke it up whit here, while i actually stil love here, just because i am desperate. Immedialy she came on facebook, unfriended me and blocked me. Offcourse here bff liked the situation and i have a feeling she started to influence here even more. I called my ex a lot off nasty things, true things but stil nasty, like how i think she was becoming an attention whore constantly doing things whitout me acting as she's single while she wasn't. Things got worse after that, and she told me she loved me but that it was better to break up. I agreed cause i feel the same, at least whit how she was acting past months. So i went to here home on thursday to pick up my stuff overthere, i noticed she had been crying and i was trying to talk to here, to get us back together but she didn't want to admit how she was behaving and i said i didn't had any regrets off what i said (and i stil dont) cause i felt and sitl feel its the truth. Suddenly she asked me if i could leave here house. I did and went to a bar whit a friend. That day i didnt text here anymore. But on friday i texted whether she wanted to meet whit me when she was ready to talk about everything, she hesitated but said she wanted to meet whit me somewhere. I asked if we could meet one off the next weeks when we both thought more about the whole situation. But today i snaped kinda texting here that i didnt want to meet whit here anymore (which i regret) because i felt she was moving on already and i didnt want to get hurt, i texted here that i hoped we could be friends but that i didnt see us come back together anymore whit how she currently behaves. This has been the past few houres, and i had no reply anymore from here. I crashed and started to cry at home. Nothing to do, cause after 6 years i only have a handfull off friends left, she was the center off my life, and now i got a blackhole which i can't always fill up. Today i've done nothing but crying, looking at tv or sitting behind my pc cause my friends were not available. Tonight i am going out, but i am scared off all off the moments i wont have nothing to do or people to hang out whit. I don't want to crash everytime. And i know my ex doesnt have that problem cause she has here bff who's always available for here + adding to that she is very attractive she can get a new guy in a matter off days if she wants to. So i got 2 questions: 1) how to coop whit those black hole moments? i started to go at the gym whit some friends and we go everyday in the week from 7-9pm after work, but i am talking about those black hole moments during the weekend, which were usually my time whit my ex. I can't seem to figure out how to keep myself busy then. 2) If i stil have a chance to get here back (changed, the way i want to, she recognizing how wrong she is) how should i approach it if she doesnt text me back or answers my calls, and has blocked me on social network.
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