He doesn't initiate hanging out as much after 2 years. Is it a given??

[babydoll88]

Do things change after 2 years of dating? I'm in a serious relationship, we both see futures with one another. And we have our ups and downs. They have definitely helped us grow. But things are very down for my bf right now. Financially, things with his family, stress about his work, etc. It's a rough period. He's working a lot during the week and we only see each other on the weekends. We spend Fri night thru Mon mornings together. That was a hard adjustment cause we would previously spend every day together almost. But now that he's working and he lives 45 mins away from me, he prefers to stay at home during the week. He also says he wants space and time to do his own thing like go to the gym and meet his cousins etc. In the last 2 years we both lost ourselves in the relationship and maybe he is realizing it now. I know I can see it for myself. So the space is good, healthy. But hard. And while I do get weekends with him, sometimes I wish when he had a free weeknight he would say to me, I miss you, can I come over tonight. I mean he does have the time if he can meet his cousins 3-4 times a week to hang out at night doesnt he? This may sound weird, but of those 4 nights he's with them, on occasion can't I have one of them?? Not every week, but occasionally? And he never asks, if at all I have to ask him if he wants to come over during the week. And if he's busy he will say no and offer to come over the next night. But still, it was me asking! To him, he says coming over on the weekends is his way of showing he wants to spend time with me. Is it weird I want to hear it?? Or that I want another day with him here and there and if I do, I have to ask for it??

Plus, I was sick last night. After work he asked how I was feeling and told me he was going to hang with his cousins. But he never offered or asked if I needed anything. Ok, you had a long day and want to wind down, but why doesn't that thought cross your mind?? He has done it before, bought me meds and made food, so I just don't know why he didn't think of that. Hanging out with his cousins was more impt? His excuse was that he wasn't sure what time he was gonna get back from work (he works on construction jobs which don't have set timings, it's whenever you finish). But once he got back he couldn't ask???

Edited August 17, 2013 by babydoll88