Mads3131 Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 So this guy and I went on three really amazing dates. We kissed on all three and made out a lot on the second one. He was really sweet to me and remembered all different things thy I told him. Also after the first dye he went out of the country on vacation but still emailed me asking how I was doing and told me he was thinking of me. Anyways things wet moving pretty fast suddenly he was acting mind of distant so I asked what he was thinking and he said he didn't have time for much else because ( he plays division 1 football, I am 18 and he is 20 by the way) at an ivy school and needs to focus on school and football right now and doesn't have time for much else at all. He had told me I the past that on season free time is hard to come by. He seemed really into me though and I truly don't believe he was just using me. If I let him do his thing for the next few months do you think he will come around? Maybe after the season see if e wants to catch up?
thefooloftheyear Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Hes a smart kid...Id be very proud if he was my son.. Hes focusing on the "big" picture...If you dont see this or cant deal with it, then move on... Theyll be time for "that stuff" at a later date..Now, its crumbs or nothing.. TFY
phineas Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Nope. Even when I was renovating my house I could find time to meet my friends or go on a date for a woman I thought was worth it. Same with women, if they are into me they make time. Rarely is someone sooooo busy they can't spare one evening for me a week. 2
Author Mads3131 Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 It just seemed like he was really into me... I completely understand why he needs to do what he needs to do right now and I will give him his space. If he really did have feelings for me and wasn't using me do you think once things calm down for him we might have a chance? I agree that he is looking at the big picture and it seems like as an Ivy League athlete he really truly might not have time for a relationship? 1
Author Mads3131 Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 By the way I am a division 1 athlete too at the same school so I know the commitment it takes. You really won't get much free time and he is really focused on football- it is pretty much the most important thing to him.
Scrab22 Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Is his school and football local? I mean, is it out of the country or is he still as close to you as he was on your first dates?
thefooloftheyear Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 It just seemed like he was really into me... I completely understand why he needs to do what he needs to do right now and I will give him his space. If he really did have feelings for me and wasn't using me do you think once things calm down for him we might have a chance? I agree that he is looking at the big picture and it seems like as an Ivy League athlete he really truly might not have time for a relationship? You have a good attitude and know how difficult it may be...I would think at that level, while its not USC or Florida State, they probably practice and train year round..Between meetings, travel during season, etc..and schoolwork, he is probably like a one armed paperhanger... Tell him how you feel, maybe keep it light and see where it goes.. I wish you well TFY
Author Mads3131 Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 Yeah I think we just went into things too quickly and it must have freaked him out, he is totally committed to football so I can see why he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now. I think I will just let it go for the next few months an then see if he wants to get together when his season ends. I think I came off like I wanted a relationship and it freaked him out. Anyways I will definitely see him around since we both play division 1 sports so I will see if plenty of times so maybe he would be willing to talk when we bump Ito each other. If he wasn't just using me how would he just suddenly lose feelings for me in a few days, is what I'm thinking. Maybe he just truly can't balance a relationship right now and needed to create some space
irc333 Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Usually single parents with young children have little time to date. I have pretty much given up on dating single mothers with young children because you wind up competing with the kids activities i.e - Cub Scouts, being driven to soccer practice/football practice/games, etc. Not only that, she's having to ferry her kids friends to the mall or wherever. She winds up being a taxi driver for her kids friends and so on. Best that she's a single mother with children that are high school aged or even in college....that's the age where the kids are old enough to have their own girlfriends/ boyfriends and the mother has time or has the "Empty Nest" thing going.
StanMusial Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 I used to think I was busy in college until I started my career.
farva2 Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Definitely been too busy to hang out with people and maintain a decent social life. Taking 15 units at university, working 30+ hours a week, and training for a marathon all at the same time pretty much turns me into a ghost and it's probably the same situation for your fellow here. College Sports are no joke and are a full time commitment so as long as he maintains contact with you, you should take comfort in that. If he really likes you, he'll make or drop plans to see you whenever he can.
Author Mads3131 Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 He hasn't talked to me in a few days, but he still follows me on twitter and stuff, I think I freaked him out a bit and have him the commitment vibe but didn't mean too. Guess I can really know until I see him! I won't text him and stuff anymore and let him figure it out
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