How does a long distance rebound work if he has to see me every day?

[feelfreefloat]

My ex transferred to my school this year to be with me. We have been in a two year long distance (different colleges). The school is great so there is nothing wrong with wanting to be here, but he did it for me because he wanted to be with me.

 

He broke up with me by ignoring me after telling me he couldn't wait to be with me every day, he was so glad he was at my school etc. he told a friend to tell me he needed space and talking to me wasn't worth the pain and guilt. Literally a switch went off.

 

Three days later he goes on a hiking trip/has sex with this new girl he just met. He's heads over heels with her and wants to get into a relationship with her. He's treating it like a long term relationship when she is acting like it is something new (from what I can tell). He even told a friend he doesn't THINK he misses me because he doesn't think of me. No kidding.

 

He is a junior and she an incoming freshman....at a school near where he just transferred from. He won't go back. But.

 

Why would he want to do yet ANOTHER long distance if he was so fed up with one with me because he couldnt stand not being with me. If he transferred schools to be with me. If this is a rebound, does the honeymoon phase last longer in a LDR? Is it possible to even win him back if I have to see him all the time (literally every day) and he's in a LDR rebound? I remember our first couple of months were GREAT as LDR as far as feelings. But we never had sex that fast.

 

Just curious

[Philosoraptor]

If he's rebounding his feelings are really bouncing around right now. But your focus shouldn't be on him or what he is doing, but on yourself and what you are doing.

 

Sounds like he is more comfortable with the distance and when the reality of a consitent face to face relationship hit, he ran from it. That or he had been getting to know this girl before he moved to your college, and decided he would rather pursue something with her.

[feelfreefloat]

Yeah I'm sure he's feeling weird.....and this girl made him feel better about himself when we were constantly fighting.

 

I know he said he didn't miss me because he doesn't think about me.

 

I see him in 4 days. And I don't know what to expect. It makes me rather nervous....he hasn't asked for any of his stuff or offered to give me mine.

 

I feel like this is almost the same pattern he had when he started dating me and it's a weird feeling.

 

I've worked a lot on myself, but it's hard knowing I have to see him every day and he didn't even have the decency to break up with me on the phone? We were apart for two months when this happened. It breaks my heart knowing how much I love him. But you can't make someone love you.