Walker Posted November 8, 2004 Posted November 8, 2004 I met this girl about a month ago and we kinda hit it off to a point. We have gone out for lunch several times and had a couple nights on the town with her friends. So all in all its been good. Heres the problem, she has this huge brick wall around her and I dont have any climbing gear. In other words her defenses are way up. From what I understand she has been in 2 pretty serious relationships in the past and is afraid of being hurt again. This is from one of her friends that filled me in with all the blanks. I was wondering if I should try to talk to her about a relationship or if I should just be a good friend until she comes around. Dont get me wrong everyone has there fair shares of heartache. But I feel if u dont get back on the horse u may miss out on something that may work. She calls pretty regularly and she seems interested but shys away when she starts to get comfortable. I was told to keep doing what im doing. Her friends said she constantly talks about me. SO that has to be a plus. I guess what i want to know is do u think it would be a good idea to take a chance and have a semi serious conversation about seeing more of eachother on a more personal level. Or just play it cool till she is ready... thanks Doug
DJ_Dork Posted November 8, 2004 Posted November 8, 2004 No, don't play it cool cause you seem to want an answer. You can take the physical route by trying to kiss her or touch her intimately and see if she gets a rise out of it. OR The next time you talk to her, tell her that you find her attractive and you're wondering if she feels the same about you. You will get your answer. All I can say is, if I am very in tune with being physical with a girl and I do like her personality I will make attempts on touching her intimately.. girls I'm so-so with (even though I'm attracted) I don't do much. I don't know why its this way.. perhaps it's a way of me intuitively figuring out what TRUE types of girls I want to be with... and the other girls I guess not. Obviously I take the sissy route and "ask her" - and usually I get the "let's be friends." It's alright though because IMHO also, girls that are really interested in you will make attempts on touching you too - however with girls you have to analyze a bit cause I've seen girls kiss guys on lips and think nothing of them the next minute.
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