imoveryou Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Hi thanks for reading my thread and please feel free to leave a comment. Me and my ex have been split now for 6 months he has already moved on. The relationship had a very bad break but with time we wished each other well and wished each other the best of luck. I have been a musician for a couple of years now with not much luck. But since i split from my ex i got my music career back on track. I put in a lot of work and eventually was offered a recording contract. I was so happy but i know the industry well i know that doesnt mean anything untill i have released material so i didnt tell many people. Out of the blue my ex contacted me asking how i was how ive been. I replied by asking how him and his family had been keeping and that im really busy with work. We exchanged a a few more messages until he asked me about my contract. I told him yes i had one but played it down "you know what the industry is like". He asked me if we can have a catch up and i said of course. I put down the phone and was happy. Then i remembered what about the girl he started seeing after me there was no mention of her!!! Now im double confused does he want me because i might become famous and what about the girl if he is still with her. I couldnt do that to another person even though i have some feelings for my ex. HMMMM I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO.
HumptyDumpty Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Wait! This isn't engaging is it? Did he tell you he wants to get back together? This is just a catch-up, so don't count with anything more than the "let's be friends" line! So first thing, don't overanalyze things that aren't even there yet! Second thing, if he were to ask you, would you want to be in a relationship again? The fact that you're wondering if he's back for the fame should ring an alarm bell no? This isn't good when you're unable to trust his intentions! When, to add to this, you're even unsure of this gf or ex that may be still around? So, think about it! Would you like a rs if he were to ask you? What went wrong and will change? And what about those 2 points above? You will have to adress them! Tell him that you feel like he's back like a bee for honey since you might be more famous than before! That you're unsure since you don't even know if he's in a rs? Communication is the key to everything! However, let him do the work! If he should go down the "get back together" road, then talk cash! If he shouldn't, then don't! He's a grown up man and should do at least some of the work and know what he wants! So, for now, take it as a friendly catch-up! And nothing more! Since nothing suggests that there will be more! Hope it helps
Author imoveryou Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 Well i am confused as we havent spoken in ages and he talked about my contract. ok he might have heard and thought he would call me up to see how everything was BUT i know him too well. He knows a lot of famous people not good friends with them but know them well enough to talk to and he likes that lifestyle. That was one problem we had living above his means. Nice car he couldnt afford nice clothes but bills wernt getting paid so i cant help but think he thinks Im going to be his meal ticket. Ok other than the fact he liked to be flash when he wasnt he was a nice nice person loving caring and all those things. And if he is in a relationship would he finish someone just to try and be with someone who had money. I actually dont knw.
HumptyDumpty Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Well, what could happen if he for once was a man who could afford a woman? A bit onesided if only one pays for everything! Never had much money but I did spend some on my bf as well as I could, never I only "took"! If he however expects you to pay for his meals and what not, stop! There's nothing wrong with giving chances! But he will have to do some work now! Treat him with gloves when you have this feeling already, it isn't a good sign...
Author imoveryou Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 We always spent a lot of money on each other it wasnt a money thing to me. And gave when the other one didnt have it but he likes to show off. But im at that level now where he thinks money and fame and i think money and the love of what i do. He would love nothing more than to be in the spot light and thats what im worried about. Yes i will keep him at arms length for now the last thing i want is to get back off track. I will meet up and have a catch who knows it could be nothing. But if he does want to rekindle i will have to put my career first as thats became my priority when he left.
FierceFoxie Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 I suggest listening to "Skater Boy" by Avril Levigne. It's all about this same scenario. The gf dumped the guy because he had nothing and now years later, she is in a loveless marriage, with a kid and her Ex is now a famous rockstar. It was her loss for not sticking with him when he couldn't offer her much but his heart. I think the fact your ex brought up the contract without you mentioning it shows his intentions are not pure. Sounds like he is interested in a free meal ticket.
Author imoveryou Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 Thats what i thought to be honest. No contact in 6 months! His intentions may not be what im thinking but he didnt stick it out with me while i was working hard he was too interested in going out with his friends. Im so confused but i like the thought that he may have to see my face or hear my voice on tv everyday and think why did i let her go. I would like to share all of this with him thats all i ever wanted but not the way it happened. 1
noobstar Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 Honestly, if I were you I would focus entirely on your work. This is a once in a lifetime shot, don't mess it up by bringing relationship drama into your life. Tell him you are too busy -- if he really wants you back he will make it known.
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