Another dorky question by yours truly. How should I approach my POSSIBLY GAY crush?

[daterhater]

 

 

First off, I'd like to thank you guys for responding to my last thread. You guys helped me more than you will ever know. So, thanks for treating my situation seriously and taking the time to read my long-winded question.

 

Moving on (like I've long since moved on from that guy)....

 

 

I'm taking beginning ceramics and fell in love with the class, so I started coming in outside of class to work just for fun.

 

Because the undergraduate studio is between the kiln room and the graduate studio, the grad students have to walk through our room a lot to get to the kiln. Anyway, there was this cute little grad student who I'd see every time I was there. he'd walk back and forth all the time. I'd happen to look up from my work whenever he passed, making eye contact with him, but of course I get embarassed and quickly look back down at my work. This happened numerous times. We'd always make eye contact, aknowledging the other person, then move on our merry way.

 

On Friday night me and him were the only two people in the art building. He ran into the room, asking me if he could borrow my cell phone (kiln emergency I guess). Later he comes over to where I'm throwing a pot... "Another left-hander, eh?" "Oh...I'm not left-handed. I just to know how to throw pots correctly. I mean, I'm in beginning ceramics so I don't really use the proper methods yet."

 

Flash forward.

He asks for my phone number so he could have a call back number though no one called back.

When I was ready to leave, I went into the grad room to find him and tell him me and my phone were taking off, so if someone was going to call him...well, they wouldn't be able to.

 

Then he chats about pottery and asks how I like it and blah blah.

 

"If you ever need any help, I'm always here. I'll be here all weekend. Feel free to ask if you need help throwing or need some tips."

 

"Well, I have some trouble centering my clay..."

 

"I just gave a demo over that! This is what I told them...."

 

Okay, this is where the 10 minute "helpful centering tips" talk came in. It was akward. He was handling the invisible clay all sensual-like and talking in a soothing voice. Very weird to me, but probably completely normal to him. I just stood there nodding my head as he gave me the weirdest invisible clay demo ever.

 

 

I described the incident to my friend that night who is also in ceramics. She was trying to figure out which guy he was. "Oh, you mean the gayish grad student?" And the truth is, he was the gayish grad student. I didn't suspect him as being gay IN THE LEAST before I talked to him, but when he opened his mouth, I noticed he does sound slightly...feminine? or artsy? i don't know. I know you can't judge orientation by a voice, but...well, I don't want to flirt with a guy who has no interest in the female race.

 

Of course I came in the following night, hoping he'd be there. He wasn't there, but three boy undergrads were in my room. Too bad. I was about to leave, when he walked through the room and said, "hey, how's the throwing going?"

 

Okay, I don't want to make this story and longer than it should be. Basically while I was throwing pots that night, he came over three times to see me and give me tips. The first time, he sat down besides me and centered my clay for me. The second time he did it just to check up on me. The third time, he gave me a tip on removing the pot from the wheel.

 

 

So, it wasn't until "oh, he might be gay" came into my head that I thought what I originally took as him liking me might be him thanking me for the use of my phone. Maybe he was so grateful for me letting him use my phone, he felt the need to help me at any chance he got? I don't know. I don't see him helping any of the other undergraduates out. Also, my friend said she thought the grad studio had a special phone, so why would he need to use mine? Keep in mind there might not be a grad phone. I don't know.

 

 

Basically I just want advice on what to do or how to go about this whole situation. I like him. I assumed he liked me at first because he kept (what i thought was) checking me out.

 

Okay. Sorry so long.

[daterhater]

Holy ****, that is longer than I thought it would be.

 

 

Let me make a condensed version.

 

 

 

<B>CONDENSED VERSION</B>

 

 

me= undergraduate. crush = graduate. i work on ceramics during the weekends a lot. cute grad is ALWAYS there working too! i make eye contact many, many times. i think he likes me because he notices me and seemed to walk through the undergraduate room more than other graduate students did.

 

friday night we finally talked because he needed to borrow my phone. he gives me a demo. "if you ever need help, i'm here all weekend. i can show you how to center your clay. i'm always here. feel free to ask for help."

 

i come in the following night. he comes over to my wheel three diff. times throughout the night.

 

i realize....hmm...he sounds kinda gay... my friend agrees. my thoughts of, "OH, HE HAS A CRUSH ON ME AND THAT'S WHY HE BORROWD MY PHONE AND OFFERED TO HELP ME AND TOLD ME HE'D BE HERE ALL WEEKEND" go away and i'm replaced with, "he's probably just being nice."

 

 

 

so, what do i do? i like him a lot, but now feel dorky talking about anything that's not pottery related in case he IS gay.

 

and uh... i'm super shy so i can't exactly ask him out.

[DJ_Dork]

Yeah he's gay and he probably likes you too and is probably shy about it. Everything should naturally progress into something.. let it happen naturally.

[tokyo]

daterhater,

 

nice nick, I should have claimed it before. I don´t know if he´s gay or not, but as dorky said before it will happen naturally. Don´t worry about that too much. He doesn´t seem to be that shy, so when he´s interested he will let you know.