CrystalCastles Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 You have two options: 1) Be an adult and tell her it's over. 2) Sleep with her one more time, ejaculate on her face, then tell her to get the F out. I recommend Option 1 but I know there are plenty of men out there who would opt for Option 2. Oo! I'd go with Option 2! Might as well milk it for all it's worth. 2
ascendotum Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 OR you could just make her a FWB without telling her. She's certainly earned it. Not such a bad idea actually, if you can stand to still see her and keep up the facade. Chances are she will be a bit annoyed you are not giving her the same amount of attention, but ultimately it will fit in with her plans to spend more time with others, but at least you are not being the one getting stooged. Good on you for taking the initiative on creating a fake profile. "If it were me, I'd show up to your date with her next weekend. Look at her in the eye, whisper "its over" and walk out." I think showing up with another date is not a bad idea, but ideally with a female friend who is in on it. You really don't want another girl to feel she was used as a prop in a revenge stunt.
ForeverHopeful1 Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 wow I think you should show up at the date! What a story! But you two are not married, you're only dating. So why do you feel you should have a monopoly on her pu__y? If you're not married, you're single. What? Are you serious? Or are you pulling my leg?
phineas Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 Am I the only one seeing this? This is crazy-talk. Legally, maybe you're single if you're not married, but if you come to a mutual verbal agreement of expectations for a relationship and someone veers outside of that, it's an emotional breech of trust. As the OP says, they agreed to be exclusive, he has every right to think he has a "monopoly" on her private parts... because that's exactly what she agreed to. Yeah, I don't get this "I don't see a ring on this finger" mentality some people have when it comes to cheating. I'm a little busy today so I will come back later and answer all other questions but I just wanted to clear this one up. The phone is a pre-paid mobile bought over the counter with zero records that it belongs to me. I bought this phone exclusively to call her after I found out she was still actively looking. Basically at the end of the day, there is no way of tracking it back to me. If she does know it's me it's not because of the phone. I can understand the fake profile to catch her intentions for having her profile still on the site but once you knew them why keep it going? I would of cut the skank off, deleted her from my life, gotten an STD test & moved on. Men do cheat, but women are WAY worse. They just hide it better. The whole "men are cheaters and only want sex" is media propaganda. OP, someone had the idea to bring a date to the restaurant and "run into her". I think that would be a good idea. Of course, make sure to call her out on her bs before you leave. OR you could just make her a FWB without telling her. She's certainly earned it. I honestly don't know. My friends (the one's who have lasted for decades) never cheated on someone as far as I know. They all have been cheated on though. On the flip side, I have female friends that have all been cheated on. They may of cheated but by the way they openly & publicly denigrate any man who cheats as scum & will not socialize with them leads me to believe they got some serious trust issues with men from being cheated on or are pure evil & really good actors & banging these guys secretly. At the same time I know both men & women who can & will cheat on a regular basis while the women tend to keep it to themselves or to a very small circle of friends (who will betray them at a moments notice if they are on the outs that week. LOL!) While the guys cheating do brag about it. so again, I don't know. I used to like the idea of downgrading to FWB however, then you gotta go back to rubbers and when you think about why you gotta go back to rubbers..........
SantistaUSA Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 If it were me, I'd show up to your date with her next weekend. Look at her in the eye, whisper "its over" and walk out. That would be sweet, I would say "it's over bi@#$! Oo! I'd go with Option 2! Might as well milk it for all it's worth. LMAO Anyways if all this is a true story and she has no clue that it is you and it is cheating on you, be the bigger person and don't get too crazy as it might backfire on you. I'd would say bringing a hot friend with you that is aware of what's going on might be the best option for you, don't make a scene tho be an adult. How old are you guys?
kaylan Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 Part of me would want to simply print out evidence, show her it, tell her its over, kick her out and remove her belongings from my place. While another part of me wants to screw her in her bed, no kissing whatsoever, get my orgasm, tell her its over and that a good lay is all a whore like her will be worth to any sane man. Cheaters are worth little to me.
Woggle Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 Part of me would want to simply print out evidence, show her it, tell her its over, kick her out and remove her belongings from my place. While another part of me wants to screw her in her bed, no kissing whatsoever, get my orgasm, tell her its over and that a good lay is all a whore like her will be worth to any sane man. Cheaters are worth little to me. I would just show up, dump her then walk out. That is the perfect response. Lets her know it's over but doesn't lower him to her level. 1
hppr Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 This is the part i'm trying to determine. Whose phone did he use? How did he maintain contact? I know how i'd do it but I'm honestly wondering if this is real or just someone looking to say "women cheat more than men" I think it's real because I have known tons of guys who ended up in this situation. Getting 'revenge' never works though because the women are always shameless types.
ascendotum Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 I think it's real because I have known tons of guys who ended up in this situation. Getting 'revenge' never works though because the women are always shameless types. That's the thing. Many are shameless. they will be shocked but have a chuckle about it later, 'oh well I blew that', and take note of what tripped them up. Next time, she will use another OLD account on another site. She will make up some BS to her friends & family about the guy saying disrespectful things to her at the resturant and so she broke up with him. Ideally you want shame the cheater in front of their friends/co-workers/family for it to hit home. I guess FB could be handy for this if there are common friends.
Woggle Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 The best thing is to do what I suggested and be complete poker faced about. Then go on and live a happy life. That will get to her more than anything else. The fact that her ex is living a happy life without her will eat at her ego. 1
Author FedUpWithDating Posted August 18, 2013 Author Posted August 18, 2013 I'd would say bringing a hot friend with you that is aware of what's going on might be the best option for you, don't make a scene tho be an adult. How old are you guys? I have organised to go on a "date" next weekend with a mates wife that she hasn't met yet. Our table is booked for half an hour after hers. My plan is to message her than I am running late so she is seated and has a drink. The I will walk in with my date and play it from there. I planned this yesterday after reading the idea here but after sleeping on it I am not sure it will work. Once she sees me, I will be the one cheating as I have the date while she is alone, she may well play the "my parents haven't arrived yet" card. Pretty sure I am going to scrap that idea unless I can see a way it will work. I am 37, she is 29.
Author FedUpWithDating Posted August 18, 2013 Author Posted August 18, 2013 Ideally you want shame the cheater in front of their friends/co-workers/family for it to hit home. I guess FB could be handy for this if there are common friends. I think you have it. I will scan all emails, her OLD account messages etc and upload them all to FB and share them on all her family and friends pages and tag them in all the uploads. I could send them just as her "date" starts so she doesn't have time to play damage control. I think I might just go alone to the restaurant, be all surprised she is there, give her a kiss and tell her to check her FB on her phone. Then tell her I will be back in a minute and go and watch from afar.
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