FedUpWithDating Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 I met a girl through an on line dating site and we hit it off immediately. It went slow and it wasn’t until after about 6 weeks that we actually went on our first date. That was 9 months ago. We decided to be exclusive almost immediately and there is no doubt that we both understand this. So I remembered about my old profile on the site and went in a month or so ago to shut it down. I noticed she had been on too. I put mine into invisible mode and I kept checking in every few days and hers is still active and she is logging in almost daily. Two weeks ago I created a profile that I thought she would like and before I even had the chance to contact her she had messaged this profile. Without going into details she said she was with a guy, in love, and just wanted some fun on the side. I wasn’t happy about that but thought it might be all just words so I played along, sent the fake photo, put on a different voice on the phone and low and behold we are supposed to be meeting next weekend. We were out for dinner last night and she told me she was busy next weekend (oh the surprise), she has to visit her parents. Needless to say this relationship is over but how should I best humiliate her? Do I just not turn up to the restaurant and let her wonder or do I walk in and go “Oh surprise to see you here, where are your parents” and watch her squirm. Do I make a scene so the whole restaurant knows? I’ve just about had it with women and their cheating ways. Gone are the days when the mistress on the side was a purely male thing. These days I know far more women that either are or have cheated than men. It’s very very sad.
runningfar Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 I met a girl through an on line dating site and we hit it off immediately. It went slow and it wasn’t until after about 6 weeks that we actually went on our first date. That was 9 months ago. We decided to be exclusive almost immediately and there is no doubt that we both understand this. So I remembered about my old profile on the site and went in a month or so ago to shut it down. I noticed she had been on too. I put mine into invisible mode and I kept checking in every few days and hers is still active and she is logging in almost daily. Two weeks ago I created a profile that I thought she would like and before I even had the chance to contact her she had messaged this profile. Without going into details she said she was with a guy, in love, and just wanted some fun on the side. I wasn’t happy about that but thought it might be all just words so I played along, sent the fake photo, put on a different voice on the phone and low and behold we are supposed to be meeting next weekend. We were out for dinner last night and she told me she was busy next weekend (oh the surprise), she has to visit her parents. Needless to say this relationship is over but how should I best humiliate her? Do I just not turn up to the restaurant and let her wonder or do I walk in and go “Oh surprise to see you here, where are your parents” and watch her squirm. Do I make a scene so the whole restaurant knows? I’ve just about had it with women and their cheating ways. Gone are the days when the mistress on the side was a purely male thing. These days I know far more women that either are or have cheated than men. It’s very very sad. Cheaters have cheating ways. Not women. past that, just end it. Don't live your life seeking vengeance. It will never go the way you hope. Also, forgiveness is for yourself not the other person. Dismiss her from your life, but you can't let that and the quest to get revenge weigh on you... It's hurting you more than you could hurt her. IMHO, don't try to humiliate her-- she is the type of person who chooses to hurt another person. Is that who you want to be too? Trying to humiliate someone is a disgusting action. No, it's not cheating. That doesn't make it right. (And yes I have been cheated on before) 1
BradJacobs Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 You should bring a date to the same restaurant. Then watch her react when she realizes that she's been stood up. Icing on the cake would be when you dump her publicly. 6
MidwestUSA Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 You should bring a date to the same restaurant. Then watch her react when she realizes that she's been stood up. Icing on the cake would be when you dump her publicly. This is too sweet, Brad, love it! Wish I'd been so bold in my seven years of OLD . OP, if you've got the kahunas, this is the way to go! Be sure to let us know how it goes. (Make sure your "date" is fully on on the plan) 1
phineas Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Cheaters gonna cheat. I'd say I know just as many women who were cheated on by d-bags as men I know who were cheated on by ho's. I'd just show up to her date & tell her "you're done" then walk away. Wait, did you buy a burn phone for this OP?
PlumPrincess Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 If that is true, I would dump her, but without all the humiliating crap. Somehow reading your post, another thought came up though. It's not possible that she saw through your plan and is leading you on, meaning, she knows who is behind the fake profile? I find it a bit odd that she didn't recognize you on the phone. And you don't share the same computer, do you?
Author FedUpWithDating Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 If that is true, I would dump her, but without all the humiliating crap. Oh that's not going to happen. For 9 months I gave her my everything and now I have to get tested for STD's. Let's be honest here, if she was so willing to see my imaginary guy after only 2 weeks how many other real guys has she been seeing while with me? Somehow reading your post, another thought came up though. It's not possible that she saw through your plan and is leading you on, meaning, she knows who is behind the fake profile? That could be true. We will know next week. I find it a bit odd that she didn't recognize you on the phone. And you don't share the same computer, do you? We only spoke briefly on the phone the first time because I had a "cold". The second time I parked in an tunnel and told her I was on the way home from work and stopped to call so it was very noisy and echoing. She has never been anywhere near my computer.
Star Gazer Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 If that is true, I would dump her, but without all the humiliating crap. Somehow reading your post, another thought came up though. It's not possible that she saw through your plan and is leading you on, meaning, she knows who is behind the fake profile? I find it a bit odd that she didn't recognize you on the phone. And you don't share the same computer, do you? I agree. I once had someone try to set me up like this. I caught him, and played along. He bailed, claiming/thinking I was up to no good. I let him go, as anyone who'd do that isn't in the right mind to be in a healthy relationship. A couple months later now, he's back sniffing around... I'm still toying with whether or not to tell him I know what he plotted.
BradJacobs Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 If that is true, I would dump her, but without all the humiliating crap. If true, I'd have fun with it. He's all ready detached himself from the relationship. It's just boiling down to how creative he wants to be ending it. Think of it like a surprise dumping party.
phineas Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 I agree. I once had someone try to set me up like this. I caught him, and played along. He bailed, claiming/thinking I was up to no good. I let him go, as anyone who'd do that isn't in the right mind to be in a healthy relationship. A couple months later now, he's back sniffing around... I'm still toying with whether or not to tell him I know what he plotted. Unless you were actively looking to cheat on someone your point is invalid. OP & the man you described are coming from two totally different places & dealing with two totally different situations.
SugarLips72 Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Aside from all the other nonsense, if her online dating profile is still up, she is still looking. Sorry that you have wasted your time and your heart on her. time to end it.
Atem Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 I agree. I once had someone try to set me up like this. I caught him, and played along. He bailed, claiming/thinking I was up to no good. I let him go, as anyone who'd do that isn't in the right mind to be in a healthy relationship. A couple months later now, he's back sniffing around... I'm still toying with whether or not to tell him I know what he plotted. Hm? So you were cheating on your BF and caught him when he tried to throw you a nice "go **** yourself" breakup party? Good for you but catching doesn't make you look good in this situation. You still cheated... -_- OP - follow the "show up with another date" advice. Make sure the gal you call up for this is not a real date though (or this could backfire) and appear as if you're having the night of your life while she sits there alone...
hppr Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 If you used your phone she probably knows it's you and is having fun with it. As far as her cheating the fact that she still has an online dating profile up and is messaging people is very disconcerting, especially if she sent you a message first. This kind of thing doesn't 'just happen' after several months of dating it is a pattern that girls like that follow. They will 'commit' to a guy and then have other guys on the side because they think you're too dumb to find out.
phineas Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 If you used your phone she probably knows it's you and is having fun with it. As far as her cheating the fact that she still has an online dating profile up and is messaging people is very disconcerting, especially if she sent you a message first. This kind of thing doesn't 'just happen' after several months of dating it is a pattern that girls like that follow. They will 'commit' to a guy and then have other guys on the side because they think you're too dumb to find out. This is the part i'm trying to determine. Whose phone did he use? How did he maintain contact? I know how i'd do it but I'm honestly wondering if this is real or just someone looking to say "women cheat more than men" 1
Adele0908 Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 wow I think you should show up at the date! What a story! But you two are not married, you're only dating. So why do you feel you should have a monopoly on her pu__y? If you're not married, you're single.
hoping2heal Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 I met a girl through an on line dating site and we hit it off immediately. It went slow and it wasn’t until after about 6 weeks that we actually went on our first date. That was 9 months ago. We decided to be exclusive almost immediately and there is no doubt that we both understand this. So I remembered about my old profile on the site and went in a month or so ago to shut it down. I noticed she had been on too. I put mine into invisible mode and I kept checking in every few days and hers is still active and she is logging in almost daily. Two weeks ago I created a profile that I thought she would like and before I even had the chance to contact her she had messaged this profile. Without going into details she said she was with a guy, in love, and just wanted some fun on the side. I wasn’t happy about that but thought it might be all just words so I played along, sent the fake photo, put on a different voice on the phone and low and behold we are supposed to be meeting next weekend. We were out for dinner last night and she told me she was busy next weekend (oh the surprise), she has to visit her parents. Needless to say this relationship is over but how should I best humiliate her? Do I just not turn up to the restaurant and let her wonder or do I walk in and go “Oh surprise to see you here, where are your parents” and watch her squirm. Do I make a scene so the whole restaurant knows? I’ve just about had it with women and their cheating ways. Gone are the days when the mistress on the side was a purely male thing. These days I know far more women that either are or have cheated than men. It’s very very sad. 1. Tim is that you?? Are you back?? 2. Why are you worried about humiliating her at all? Yeah okay she's a scummy cretan, so bid her adieu. Is this the 7th grade? Don't act like such a chump. Be angry, be hurt, be drunk if it's your thing but running around worrying about getting one over on people like that is a terrible waste of oxygen. You'll accomplish nothing and you won't feel any better. Instead it will happen, you'll smile and revel until the moment you realize 1. I just behaved like I'm still in Pampers and 2. I just wasted X minutes of my life on this pig when I could have spent it doing X,X,X awesome and worthwhile things.
truth_seeker Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 You have two options: 1) Be an adult and tell her it's over. 2) Sleep with her one more time, ejaculate on her face, then tell her to get the F out. I recommend Option 1 but I know there are plenty of men out there who would opt for Option 2. 1
MJGeorgia Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 (edited) I met a girl through an on line dating site and we hit it off immediately. It went slow and it wasn’t until after about 6 weeks that we actually went on our first date. That was 9 months ago. We decided to be exclusive almost immediately and there is no doubt that we both understand this. So I remembered about my old profile on the site and went in a month or so ago to shut it down. I noticed she had been on too. I put mine into invisible mode and I kept checking in every few days and hers is still active and she is logging in almost daily. Two weeks ago I created a profile that I thought she would like and before I even had the chance to contact her she had messaged this profile. Without going into details she said she was with a guy, in love, and just wanted some fun on the side. I wasn’t happy about that but thought it might be all just words so I played along, sent the fake photo, put on a different voice on the phone and low and behold we are supposed to be meeting next weekend. We were out for dinner last night and she told me she was busy next weekend (oh the surprise), she has to visit her parents. Needless to say this relationship is over but how should I best humiliate her? Do I just not turn up to the restaurant and let her wonder or do I walk in and go “Oh surprise to see you here, where are your parents” and watch her squirm. Do I make a scene so the whole restaurant knows? I’ve just about had it with women and their cheating ways. Gone are the days when the mistress on the side was a purely male thing. These days I know far more women that either are or have cheated than men. It’s very very sad. If I were in your place I would show up at the restaurant. Tell her your username and show her printouts of your messages so she can't lie. Be sure and print out the message where she says she is in love with you but wants a little fun on the side. Trust me doing this the nice way is better than being mean. This way you are confronting her and she can't deny it. After showing the printouts tell her it's over. That way you come off as being nice and she will feel guilty. My Grandmother always used to say kill them with kindness. I am sorry this happened to you. Nothing is worse than the opposite sex lying to you. Please let us know what you do. Edited August 17, 2013 by MJGeorgia 1
inamity Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 wow I think you should show up at the date! What a story! But you two are not married, you're only dating. So why do you feel you should have a monopoly on her pu__y? If you're not married, you're single. Am I the only one seeing this? This is crazy-talk. Legally, maybe you're single if you're not married, but if you come to a mutual verbal agreement of expectations for a relationship and someone veers outside of that, it's an emotional breech of trust. As the OP says, they agreed to be exclusive, he has every right to think he has a "monopoly" on her private parts... because that's exactly what she agreed to. 2
Woggle Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 I would just show up and then walk out after you dump her.
Author FedUpWithDating Posted August 18, 2013 Author Posted August 18, 2013 This is the part i'm trying to determine. Whose phone did he use? I'm a little busy today so I will come back later and answer all other questions but I just wanted to clear this one up. The phone is a pre-paid mobile bought over the counter with zero records that it belongs to me. I bought this phone exclusively to call her after I found out she was still actively looking. Basically at the end of the day, there is no way of tracking it back to me. If she does know it's me it's not because of the phone.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 Cheaters gonna cheat. I'd say I know just as many women who were cheated on by d-bags as men I know who were cheated on by ho's. I'd just show up to her date & tell her "you're done" then walk away. Wait, did you buy a burn phone for this OP? Men do cheat, but women are WAY worse. They just hide it better. The whole "men are cheaters and only want sex" is media propaganda. OP, someone had the idea to bring a date to the restaurant and "run into her". I think that would be a good idea. Of course, make sure to call her out on her bs before you leave. OR you could just make her a FWB without telling her. She's certainly earned it. 2
supaflyz Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 Sorry if I come across as rude, but how could you possibly think like this. Just because they aren't married doesn't mean she can cheat. They have been together for over 9 months? How is this even ok for her? wow I think you should show up at the date! What a story! But you two are not married, you're only dating. So why do you feel you should have a monopoly on her pu__y? If you're not married, you're single. 2
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 Sorry if I come across as rude, but how could you possibly think like this. Just because they aren't married doesn't mean she can cheat. They have been together for over 9 months? How is this even ok for her? That person had another thread about that. There's something wrong with her. I wouldn't acknowledge her further. 1
ForeverHopeful1 Posted August 18, 2013 Posted August 18, 2013 I met a girl through an on line dating site and we hit it off immediately. It went slow and it wasn’t until after about 6 weeks that we actually went on our first date. That was 9 months ago. We decided to be exclusive almost immediately and there is no doubt that we both understand this. So I remembered about my old profile on the site and went in a month or so ago to shut it down. I noticed she had been on too. I put mine into invisible mode and I kept checking in every few days and hers is still active and she is logging in almost daily. Two weeks ago I created a profile that I thought she would like and before I even had the chance to contact her she had messaged this profile. Without going into details she said she was with a guy, in love, and just wanted some fun on the side. I wasn’t happy about that but thought it might be all just words so I played along, sent the fake photo, put on a different voice on the phone and low and behold we are supposed to be meeting next weekend. We were out for dinner last night and she told me she was busy next weekend (oh the surprise), she has to visit her parents. Needless to say this relationship is over but how should I best humiliate her? Do I just not turn up to the restaurant and let her wonder or do I walk in and go “Oh surprise to see you here, where are your parents” and watch her squirm. Do I make a scene so the whole restaurant knows? I’ve just about had it with women and their cheating ways. Gone are the days when the mistress on the side was a purely male thing. These days I know far more women that either are or have cheated than men. It’s very very sad. If it were me, I'd show up to your date with her next weekend. Look at her in the eye, whisper "its over" and walk out.
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