katty Posted November 8, 2004 Posted November 8, 2004 I hate myself right now. I do not understand why I could possibly be crying again over someone that obviously didn't give a rats butt about me. why would I do this to myself. I keep telling myself that I am doing better but then out of nowhere here comes the river of tears again. Why do I miss him so much? I want to talk to him so bad right now and it makes no sense. I have no reason to want to talk to him. He has moved on. I just wish I could understand it better.
SoleMate Posted November 8, 2004 Posted November 8, 2004 It's normal to feel pain after a breakup, even if the breakup was necessary and desired. You develop feelings of attachment. It's not a personal weakness of yours, it is a trait of any psychologically healthy human being. So please try to accept that you will feel a lot of pain, even if he was unworthy and cruel to you. This is a good time to take care of yourself and also get into distractions - spend time with people as much as possible, and also get busy with projects.
Yeto Posted November 9, 2004 Posted November 9, 2004 It happens to all of us, specially when we are alone, so, to help it you have to be with friends, co-workers, or who ever you can be in order to be with someone, and try to get a new relationship, is the only way, you will see later how happy you are and you will see back how ridicule you were.
nscrgrl25 Posted November 10, 2004 Posted November 10, 2004 i can totally relate. my boyfriend lives with me and we just broke up. he couldn't control his porn or cocaine addiction and has absolutely no respect for my feelings, but its so hard to let go. all my friends and family have hated him since the beginning (and they dont even know about the addtictions). I know they are all right and logically i know i deserve better than someone who can easily lie to me, but i cant let go. the only hope i have is that i have gone through this before and time is the only thing that can heal all wounds. it sounds so cliche, but it is true. tomorrow will be better than today. everytime you want to call him, log on here or call a friend. men never respond to women who chase them.
Naive Posted November 10, 2004 Posted November 10, 2004 It's just a process hon'. It takes time for you to heal. Everyone is different though, you may heal faster or slower than others, but in the end it will have a good effect on you. It will make you stronger and next time you will not allow someone to walk over you. You will set new standards for yourself, better and more high ones. You will learn to value a real good man and have less tolerance when it comes to BS!!! For now you have to allow yourself to heal. If you have to cry then cry, if you have to scream then do so, but once you are done brush that dust off your shoulder and don't look back!!!
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