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I thought I was past this stage but the memories and feelings are coming back a bit.

Emma1234

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Emma1234 Established Member

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I didn't think that this would happen but all of the reasons and feelings as to why I don't want my ex back seem to have been banished as I've come on holiday.

 

It's the sort of holiday that we used to go on together and some of my favourite memories of us happened during these get aways. Although the last one we went on was a year ago and I know that uni has changed him since I can't seem to stop the memories which reminds me of how much he loved me and how caring and loving he was. I'm also remembering all of his good traits which is making me put the blame of him breaking up with me (to find himself and because we were arguing, mainly because of me) onto myself.

 

Any advice as to how to get out of this rut. It's 3 months 2 weeks break up and nearly 40 days no contact.

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I think we will always have memories of those we love. You can't avoid the places you went together forever. I woke up in bad form today and my head is full of the things we shared. It hurts. I also remember his loving side, and it's killing me. I always try to focus on his bad traits but he was a good man so it doesn't help much. I think you might still need time, healing can be a long course. Even when we feel we are making huge progress there will be moments when it all comes back to us. It's only been 5 weeks No Contact for me so I'm still on a roller coaster ride. I hope one day you can look back and smile at the memories, and not let them drag you down. Stay strong, you've done well so far :)

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todreaminblue Established Member

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you will one day be able to look back and smile about the memories but not feel a pull towards your ex.......it took me a long time....years and it happened ...if you are with anyone for a long time or even just months you will always have have good memories in among some bad (which are involved around the break) ...or fights or whatever.......to me, when you are truly over someone you dont have to feel badly about them or bring up horribleness to keep you in no contact....this is where i am at..i remember the good and the bad....

 

 

you just know it wasnt meant to be.....there are new memories you will make one day with another...its not going to happen tomorrow for you, or for me for that matter, but, tomorrow will be one day closer to when it will happen for you...hugs to ya....stay strong...deb

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ConfusedHumanBeing Established Member

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I didn't think that this would happen but all of the reasons and feelings as to why I don't want my ex back seem to have been banished as I've come on holiday.

 

It's the sort of holiday that we used to go on together and some of my favourite memories of us happened during these get aways. Although the last one we went on was a year ago and I know that uni has changed him since I can't seem to stop the memories which reminds me of how much he loved me and how caring and loving he was. I'm also remembering all of his good traits which is making me put the blame of him breaking up with me (to find himself and because we were arguing, mainly because of me) onto myself.

 

Any advice as to how to get out of this rut. It's 3 months 2 weeks break up and nearly 40 days no contact.

 

3 Months is still very early on (even though it probably feels like forever). You still have a little bit to go.....people get over things at different times, but it did take me about a year to get where I am today, which is about 80 percent indifference and about 20 percent still miss them. We all go through different times and ways to get over something. You still have a little bit to go. Dont give up though!

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theonlyjuan Established Member

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Those things you can't ignore. Every day things like watching movies together etc are easy to get over because you do them yourself quite often. Things that were more special just don't leave you, even if you are mostly over your ex. It will be the same for them too.

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shouldawouldacoulda New Member

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Just keep going. I think everyone on here knows how you feel, I literally cant go anywhere at the moment without feeling like that.

It's upsetting to think that they will now be sharing those times with someone else (even if it is just going to costco, yes I cried in costco!)

 

Keep on with the NC you have done so well, I cant wait until I am as far as you down the line, and I hope that your strength continues to attract positive things into your life :) x

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