hugznkisses21 Posted November 8, 2004 Posted November 8, 2004 I have a best friend that has been my best friend for 8 years. She is currently about 1 hr away at college in her second year and I am done school and working full time. NOw she is busy....with working, and school work but always finds the time to party. I make the best effort I can on what little gas money I have and time to go up and see her all last year. I always drove there to go out and party with her...she never came here. This year I have noticed she has changed. She has new friends, which is cool they are reall nice, she partyes with them...doesnt invite me....and only calls me when she has to b*tch about someone or something cause I am ber best friend and I am here to listen. Last year she had a bf that they went though some rough patches with but none the less she cared about him and I supported her through both times best I could without passing jusdgement on him, her or their relationship until I knew she was truely hurting and I stated that she needed to do what was best for her. They broke up and she has been having a great time in college. Now i have been with my bf for 1.5 years and I come to her when i have rough times to talk but it seems that she can never be happy for me. When I talk about him, or someones else says my bf doesnt talk much and I say oh he is really shy at first (which he is) I get snrkey comments, and attitude form her, like ya ya and stuff. Like he isnt good enough for our just all aournd like she is too good for me or something. Its weird when she dating her bf she thought my bf was great and always said he always had this look of love when he looked at me. I dont know what to do...im soo tired of walking on egg shells around her cause u just cant piss her off, do aything she doesnt want to do otherwise she will mope, you cant please her and she can never be happy for me. She broke up with her bf 4 times each time i supported her and everything. I have never broken up with my be but we have had fights and when i come to her for support she always makes me feel terrible like there is no way to fix this and it doomed. I dont know what to do....i really miss they way we used to be and now everything about my life isnt good enough for her....can someone give me some opinions. I was thinking about emaimg her. P.S we went out last night and when a friend of her from college met up with us....she snubbed me and walked down the street with her to go home knowing my car was the other way....and i was like...ya ok bye...and shes like ohhhhhhh your leaving. give me a break u were walking to the other girls car like hello she knew where my car was cause I drove her...which by the way i shouldnt have cause she doesnt do anything 4 me anymore.
bluechocolate Posted November 8, 2004 Posted November 8, 2004 I dont know what to do....i really miss they way we used to be and now everything about my life isnt good enough for her....can someone give me some opinions. I was thinking about emaimg her. People grow & change & so do their friendships. Its no surprise that we don't have all the friends we once had in grade school, or high school, or college. Maybe you & your friend are just growing apart. Then again, maybe its just a rough patch. If she's being very unpleasant to be around her then cool if off for a bit. You don't have to talk about it or email her - just live your life. Cultivate some other friendships & look for support from a more kindly ear. Maybe she'll settle down & be more like her old self & maybe she won't - only time will tell.
Author hugznkisses21 Posted November 8, 2004 Author Posted November 8, 2004 this is true but it isnt like i have spent a great deal of time with her ove rthe past 2 years so basically the friendship has been laying low and been cooled. I have done my own thing and met fun people does make her do anything different. I almost feel like i want her to know what she doing cause its almost like she is spoiled in her life...things are handed to her, nobody says no to her otherwise she mopes....i remember a borthday of hers...some poeple couldnt make it so she marched to her room and called all of us that could make it saying blah balh blah whine whine partys off....cause she was lookign for us to feel bad....and we did and all came over and surprised her. Thats how its been her life....when she says we go home we go home, when shes hungry we have to be....mind u she used to be a great friend but i dont knw what happened....its almost as if i dont tell her how shes acting she is completely clueless.
bluechocolate Posted November 8, 2004 Posted November 8, 2004 Well she doesn't sound like a very pleasant friend anyway so perhaps you're better off without her? There's no need to put her in her place - she probably wouldn't "get it" anyway.
Author hugznkisses21 Posted November 8, 2004 Author Posted November 8, 2004 your right.... I am going to just move on do whatever....and really if she wants to know whats wrong i will tell her but i guess iw ont waste my breath...she loves to turn things around and blame me
Lucia Posted November 8, 2004 Posted November 8, 2004 Just ignore her from now on, she's a bad energy to be around. You need friends that pick you up, not pull you down.
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