MarkV Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Hi everyone. Me and my girlfriend broke up a month ago due to her insecurities and constant questioning of me. She was always asking about girls, my past etc and it got too much in the end. It was kind of mutual because she didnt like me having female friends,and I got tired of walking on eggshells. We had a bit of small talk after the breakup but two weeks ago I decided to go nc to help myself heal. It has been so tough not talking to her as we do love each other but I have a great group of friends who are helping me by keeping me busy. Anyways she text me after two weeks saying 'hey stranger,thought I'd say hi and hope you're ok'. It took my three hours to think what to say back as I was surprised she txt me. I said 'fine thanks,hope you're enjoying your week off work'. She then said 'yes,I'm going to a music festival this weekend,miss you,everything reminds me of you (unhappy face). I didn't reply after this. I've heard of breadcrumb texts etc but I intend to stay nc again. I think she's starting to realise what she had,or she is just playing games to see if I'm still here as her friend saw me out with a group of work colleagues last week and a couple of them are girls I was chatting to,I know that got back to her. A part I forgot to tell you all is that we had a disagreement back in April where we didn't speak for a while. Even though it was not my fault I was the one doing all the chasing and showing her how much she meant to me etc,looking back I feel slightly ashamed of myself for doing this as I was a bit of a puppy dog during that time. I learnt from that and though there is no way I'm doing that again,hence why iv gone nc. I think this is why she txt me,she's prob surprised I haven't chased..what do you guys think about all this..stay nc? What do I say if she contacts me again?thanks
templeofmax Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Stay NC and you will find out!!! If she is insecure and it gets too much, like it was for me (even though, surprisingly I was the dumpee) that won't change overnight. You are hurting yourself by talking to her.
samsonpower Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 ive two kids with my x and she left me for another guy 2.5 months ago i find it really hard to deal with .the way she did was unreal bad .in the first week when she met him pictures up on her facebook page of him holding my child and pictures of her lieing in bed with him .sucks.im trying to go nc but very hard because of my kids
Bill99 Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 She misses you and is thinking about you. You aren't acting like u did last time and that has her thinking. And if she knows you are out with other girls that hurts her. You are in the drivers seat now. She will contact you again then you decide. I'd stay nc and keep your head straight that way. Youre in a good place. Stay there. Trust me.
Author MarkV Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 Bill,thank you for your post,this is what I thought. I was so weak before and chased her and went to her house etc. This time I'm exhausted with it and decided to distance myself. Tonight I'm home on my own but don't feel a desire to txt her even though she is away at a music festival. I have a feeling she will contact again at some point but I feel I'm in control now and although the last two weeks have been tough iv actually done lots of stuff..thanks again
Author MarkV Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 You were right! Tonight at 1130pm from the music festival she called me when a song was being played that I love and was a memory of us. I hung up straight away as its too painful. What the hell is she thinking??
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