cantforget Posted November 7, 2004 Posted November 7, 2004 I've been seeing a guy for 2 weeks, I really like him, I have fallen very hard and so has he. We found out yesterday his ex is pregnant and she says its his, she wants to keep it and he said he will support her but wants to stay with me. I also have a one year old daughter myself so things are pretty complicated, I cant help but feel she's making it up cause she is jealous that he has moved on, he doesn't think she would do that though. What should I do, has anyone been in similar situation?
Athene Posted November 7, 2004 Posted November 7, 2004 When I first got together with my wasband his ex come out with a similar line to that and after he pooh pooed it about a year later his ex come out with the line that she had cancer and had only six months to live. Suffice to say those was just a few of the tall tails she has come out with over the years (shes still alive and wasnt pregnant nor had cancer). The only thing we could work out is that everytime she split up with a boyfriend she would materialise and come out with another scenario to grab everybodies attention. What I did at the time was ignored any attempts on her part to get a reaction, so she wasnt having the game played the way she wanted. Some people do play games as they are jealous of their ex partner and what they have accomplished. I hope everything works out for you. Athene
Merin Posted November 8, 2004 Posted November 8, 2004 Originally posted by cantforget I've been seeing a guy for 2 weeks, I really like him, I have fallen very hard and so has he. We found out yesterday his ex is pregnant and she says its his, she wants to keep it and he said he will support her but wants to stay with me. I also have a one year old daughter myself so things are pretty complicated, I cant help but feel she's making it up cause she is jealous that he has moved on, he doesn't think she would do that though. What should I do, has anyone been in similar situation? Time will tell and show if she is making it up... Regardless if it's true.. he obviously was still having sex with her otherwise there wouldn't be any question in his mind that IF she is pregnant.. that it couldn't be his. You haven't been with this guy for very long.. so you've got to keep in mind as well that there are three sides to every story.. HIS, HERS and what ACTUALLY happened. Good Luck
ziggue Posted November 9, 2004 Posted November 9, 2004 If she really is pregnant get him to take a paternity test. Do you really want a relationship with a girl that is always gonna be hanging around in the background all the time? She will be once the baby will be born.
Author cantforget Posted November 9, 2004 Author Posted November 9, 2004 Thanks for the advice everyone. She is his ex wife so baby or not they will always be a part of each others life in some way, and I cant expect otherwise cause I have an ex husband and we have a child together so if he is prepared to accept my baggage then I will have to accept his. I do have doubts that this baby is his but he trusts her and I wont be doing our relationship any favours by trying to convince him otherwise, I just have to hope that if she is lieing than eventually the truth will prevail and hopefully no one will get hurt along the way. As for them still having sex, well I cant get upset and judge him for what he did before we met, I wish they hadn't but I cant change the past and neither can he. As Merin2 said only time will tell....
Fritz Posted November 10, 2004 Posted November 10, 2004 Well, if she's preggers and it is his..so close to the end of the marriage etc. I'd personally think of pulling back a bit if not ending things. You haven't known him that long to be able to make serious decisions like this imo. He definately needs a beatin upside the head to get a patnerity test no matter what. Its entirely possible shes lying, he did divorce her for some reason.
Charlane Posted December 5, 2004 Posted December 5, 2004 Originally posted by cantforget I've been seeing a guy for 2 weeks, I really like him, I have fallen very hard and so has he. We found out yesterday his ex is pregnant and she says its his, she wants to keep it and he said he will support her but wants to stay with me. I also have a one year old daughter myself so things are pretty complicated, I cant help but feel she's making it up cause she is jealous that he has moved on, he doesn't think she would do that though. What should I do, has anyone been in similar situation? Not only is he chaos after such a short time away from his ex but you are still mending from yours. Get a clue and give him the boot and get well yourself first. You are acting desparate. Get some pride.
Stinkerbelle Posted December 5, 2004 Posted December 5, 2004 But I have known exes who claim to be pregnant, because they think it will help them hang on to a man who doesn't want to be with them. Keep seeing the man, keep your eyes and ears open, and later on, if you believe the woman is lying, there are always DNA tests. Don't abandon him if you believe she is lying. He needs support now. But also protect your heart, because people who have just ended a marriage go through a lot of BS and manipulation that messes with their heads.
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