amarie39 Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 So we broke things off but we still talk and he flirts with me like he likes me. We broke off because his life is not in a good place and he wants to turn it around because I deserve more than what he is capable right now. He still says he likes me but we cant do a relationship right now. Anyways...he was supposed to be my date for my schools winter dance, but that was when we were dating. He is very bold to think we are still going. He would wait for me to ask him though, because its my dance. Deep down I still really want to go with him. I want him to kind of ask/ beg me to go though. I don't want to just give in and ask him outright. I want to win him over. How do I get him to want to go with me. I don't want to go alone. He would be bold enough that if I did go alone he would be like "Oh saw you went to the dance, guess you didn't want a date then." How should I proceed if the topic comes up about the dance. Its not until December but ive been thinking hard about it. I questioned telling him someone else asked me and im considering my options, or that I have some prospects, or something of the sort so he has to fight a little to be number one. But these could backfire. I know guys like a chase. I am trying to be a commodity here. I would eventually like to win him back and show him what he's been missing, but I atleast want to get to the dance with him. We still talk regularly once a week or two weeks. Advice.
Misfortune Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 So we broke things off but we still talk and he flirts with me like he likes me. We broke off because his life is not in a good place and he wants to turn it around because I deserve more than what he is capable right now. He still says he likes me but we cant do a relationship right now. Anyways...he was supposed to be my date for my schools winter dance, but that was when we were dating. He is very bold to think we are still going. He would wait for me to ask him though, because its my dance. Deep down I still really want to go with him. I want him to kind of ask/ beg me to go though. I don't want to just give in and ask him outright. I want to win him over. How do I get him to want to go with me. I don't want to go alone. He would be bold enough that if I did go alone he would be like "Oh saw you went to the dance, guess you didn't want a date then." How should I proceed if the topic comes up about the dance. Its not until December but ive been thinking hard about it. I questioned telling him someone else asked me and im considering my options, or that I have some prospects, or something of the sort so he has to fight a little to be number one. But these could backfire. I know guys like a chase. I am trying to be a commodity here. I would eventually like to win him back and show him what he's been missing, but I atleast want to get to the dance with him. We still talk regularly once a week or two weeks. Advice. I honestly would just ask outright. This is one those time sensitive things. He may ask someone else during the time you're pondering about who should do what. Is he the type to back off if you're with someone, if so, the making him jealous thing won't do you much good. If you want him to see what he's missing, just be you, be authentic. If all else fails, maybe your confidence will lure him in.
beyond Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 So we broke things off but we still talk and he flirts with me like he likes me. We broke off because his life is not in a good place and he wants to turn it around because I deserve more than what he is capable right now. He still says he likes me but we cant do a relationship right now. Anyways...he was supposed to be my date for my schools winter dance, but that was when we were dating. He is very bold to think we are still going. He would wait for me to ask him though, because its my dance. Deep down I still really want to go with him. I want him to kind of ask/ beg me to go though. I don't want to just give in and ask him outright. I want to win him over. How do I get him to want to go with me. I don't want to go alone. He would be bold enough that if I did go alone he would be like "Oh saw you went to the dance, guess you didn't want a date then." How should I proceed if the topic comes up about the dance. Its not until December but ive been thinking hard about it. I questioned telling him someone else asked me and im considering my options, or that I have some prospects, or something of the sort so he has to fight a little to be number one. But these could backfire. I know guys like a chase. I am trying to be a commodity here. I would eventually like to win him back and show him what he's been missing, but I atleast want to get to the dance with him. We still talk regularly once a week or two weeks. Advice. Oh hun, I think you have this all backwards! He broke up with you because he wants to turn his life around and can't do a relationship with you 'right now' and yet YOU are the one wondering how you win HIM back ?????? That's HIS job. As for the dance - you are a free agent now, so go out and date. December is a long time away, lots of things can happen by then so just relax and see what time brings..... Also, what would be so bad about going to the dance on your own/with a gf? Put on your best dress and a big smile and have fun. In my book that beats the hell out of going with a guy that has said he doesn't want to be with you and that you have had to 'win round!' xx
Author amarie39 Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 (edited) Thanks. I have gone on my own the last three years so I'm not afraid of it. I just had the chance to go with him. Last years dance he had a girlfriend. he told me how he asked her to go because he really wanted to go, and she turned him down....his girlfriend!!! She said she didn't really know what she wanted to do and if anything she wanted to go with a group of her girlfriends. Yeah she sounds so nice. So since he has now graduated and I still go to school there I told him that he can be my date. I would have to buy the tickets since I still go to school there and he does not. It was our thing. He would even tell his roommates like "Oh alex is taking me to the winter dance." But yes I'm single. I don't know how he would be if I met someone else. He said that he would fight for me and make it known even if I was with someone that he wanted me back. But he might not. Like since its my dance and I would need to get tickets so I don't think he would ask me. At the end of the school year this year there was a spring dance for seniors(him) and they could bring a guest for a small fee. He kept trying to get a paycheck from his work that had had problems going through the system. he tried so hard for weeks. He kept making hints about maybe going so I waited for him to ask. He said once "Oh well you look so nice dressed up and you love to dress up we have to get you so you can." The night of the dance we were cuddling, we never went, he never asked. He told me how he really wanted to take me to the dance with him. I was like "Oh." Then he was like "this is where you say Yeah I would have loved to go with you as your date." I said it and we laughed, but he never asked so what I had to praise him?? Maybe I should have had a more appreciative reaction to him wanting to take me...but he didn't and he never told me if he tried or make effort to take me. Your right December is far away so anything can happen. I'm just gonna live my life. Thank You. Edited August 17, 2013 by amarie39
beyond Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Thanks. I have gone on my own the last three years so I'm not afraid of it. I just had the chance to go with him. Last years dance he had a girlfriend. he told me how he asked her to go because he really wanted to go, and she turned him down....his girlfriend!!! She said she didn't really know what she wanted to do and if anything she wanted to go with a group of her girlfriends. Yeah she sounds so nice. So since he has now graduated and I still go to school there I told him that he can be my date. I would have to buy the tickets since I still go to school there and he does not. It was our thing. He would even tell his roommates like "Oh alex is taking me to the winter dance." But yes I'm single. I don't know how he would be if I met someone else. He said that he would fight for me and make it known even if I was with someone that he wanted me back. But he might not. Like since its my dance and I would need to get tickets so I don't think he would ask me. At the end of the school year this year there was a spring dance for seniors(him) and they could bring a guest for a small fee. He kept trying to get a paycheck from his work that had had problems going through the system. he tried so hard for weeks. He kept making hints about maybe going so I waited for him to ask. He said once "Oh well you look so nice dressed up and you love to dress up we have to get you so you can." The night of the dance we were cuddling, we never went, he never asked. He told me how he really wanted to take me to the dance with him. I was like "Oh." Then he was like "this is where you say Yeah I would have loved to go with you as your date." I said it and we laughed, but he never asked so what I had to praise him?? Maybe I should have had a more appreciative reaction to him wanting to take me...but he didn't and he never told me if he tried or make effort to take me. Your right December is far away so anything can happen. I'm just gonna live my life. Thank You. He says a lot of things doesn't he - but his actions don't back up his words. Have a great time at the dance by yourself, with a gf or with a hot new guy:bunny: 1
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