Orije Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Hello everyone, to start this off me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship for about 3 months now and there have been a few complications which i will discuss and hopefully you guys answer to. So what happened was my girlfriend is the type to always look into my past and check up on all of my exes. I was alright with it, but she began to get into my sex life and for some reason i didnt want her looking at one of my exes cause i totally disliked her after she was an ass to me so i changed up her name so my girlfriend wouldnt look her up. a little bit of time passes and i coudlnt help myself from lying to her so i come out and I tell her everything. She takes it really badly and I understand. She then proceeded that we go on a break and i was like sure we can go on a break. So it has been about a month today since we were on break and me and her are now dating. i dont know if it is wrong, but she started making rules like no kissing, no touching and everything. She told me she loved me, but at times she said she doesn't and I think it's a little too early to know if you love a person. Lately she has been really negative and and harsh to me and i want to see if I am taking it wrong or what? Today i wanted to skype her and she said she couldn't but she was still online so i was like are you already skyping someone and she is like "does that concern you?" that really hurt me alot. We also talked about the break and how to me it isn't really a break up, but she kept saying we aren't in a relationship and that a break mean ultimately breaking up. I said well there is still hope of us being together in time and she was quiet a bit. So i asked if she had something to say and she responded "I don't know". She also over the month said that she isn't sure about her feelings and she doesn't know if we will get back together, but at times she had kissed me. She is away in Dominican Republic for 2 weeks and says how she misses me. I told her not to be so harsh when tlaking about breakng up cause for me i still have alot of feelings but she said "im not being harsh, just stating facts." I really do like her and i feel like she likes me too, but I'm not sure what to do. I was thinking about not talking to her for a bit so she can realize if she really misses me and needs me, but at the same hand I don't want her to let go of me and fall for someone else. Any advice guys?
Misfortune Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Hello everyone, to start this off me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship for about 3 months now and there have been a few complications which i will discuss and hopefully you guys answer to. So what happened was my girlfriend is the type to always look into my past and check up on all of my exes. I was alright with it, but she began to get into my sex life and for some reason i didnt want her looking at one of my exes cause i totally disliked her after she was an ass to me so i changed up her name so my girlfriend wouldnt look her up. a little bit of time passes and i coudlnt help myself from lying to her so i come out and I tell her everything. She takes it really badly and I understand. She then proceeded that we go on a break and i was like sure we can go on a break. So it has been about a month today since we were on break and me and her are now dating. i dont know if it is wrong, but she started making rules like no kissing, no touching and everything. She told me she loved me, but at times she said she doesn't and I think it's a little too early to know if you love a person. Lately she has been really negative and and harsh to me and i want to see if I am taking it wrong or what? Today i wanted to skype her and she said she couldn't but she was still online so i was like are you already skyping someone and she is like "does that concern you?" that really hurt me alot. We also talked about the break and how to me it isn't really a break up, but she kept saying we aren't in a relationship and that a break mean ultimately breaking up. I said well there is still hope of us being together in time and she was quiet a bit. So i asked if she had something to say and she responded "I don't know". She also over the month said that she isn't sure about her feelings and she doesn't know if we will get back together, but at times she had kissed me. She is away in Dominican Republic for 2 weeks and says how she misses me. I told her not to be so harsh when tlaking about breakng up cause for me i still have alot of feelings but she said "im not being harsh, just stating facts." I really do like her and i feel like she likes me too, but I'm not sure what to do. I was thinking about not talking to her for a bit so she can realize if she really misses me and needs me, but at the same hand I don't want her to let go of me and fall for someone else. Any advice guys? You having thoughts of ending it + her talking about breaking up = Stick a fork in it. Just be happy you both saw it coming. Seems like she became controlling and demanding once you admitted you lied to her. Was it so hard to be honest and tell her how you felt about that ex? Where was your ex anyway? In your contacts on your phone?
Author Orije Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 To me it seems like there is still a fire in it or there is a chance it may get better. And no, i haven't talked with that ex in over a year and i made sure not to talk to her because of how rude she was and she cheated on me. The thing was i told her everything about this ex like that we only had sex once, what we did and everything. Only thing i really lied about was her name and I feel so stupid for doing what I did. She said it is alright and she forgave me, but people usually say it to hide things.
Misfortune Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 To me it seems like there is still a fire in it or there is a chance it may get better. And no, i haven't talked with that ex in over a year and i made sure not to talk to her because of how rude she was and she cheated on me. The thing was i told her everything about this ex like that we only had sex once, what we did and everything. Only thing i really lied about was her name and I feel so stupid for doing what I did. She said it is alright and she forgave me, but people usually say it to hide things. If she forgave you or was ok with it, she wouldn't be acting the way she is. She's holding it over your head, you're guilt tripping, she smells your fear and she's using it to her advantage. Breaks are break ups IMO. Breaks usually mean someone else in the picture and they get out of jail free card to pursue that. It kind of sounds like you guys are already broken up. Anyways, she's unsure of her feelings and pressing her will only make things worse; give her space to sort herself out. You don't forget people that easily and if she cares about the relationship, she'll come back and let you know.
Author Orije Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 Thank you so much Misfortune and alright! I feel alot better and i felt like i was pushing things too much. S i will give her some space to think about herself and do what she needs to do and hopefully it works out. thanks again
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