aznprincess1992 Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 So this will be a little long, but the back story is my ex and I dated for 2 years before he moved away and we had to break up because we were already in a long distance relationship before and we knew the further distance would have hurt worse. So many bad things happened to me last year which lead to a downward spiral for me and I needed a rebound that didn't work out. The problem is my ex knew, but we were still talking and it still seemed like we were dating up until a few months ago. I saw him during the holidays because he came back to visit and the last time I saw him was in March. We were also hooking up still. Then he moved back to our hometown and that's actually when we stopped talking. I feel like it was sort of my own fault that we stopped talking because we were constantly arguing and I kept blaming him for certain things that lead him to telling me he stopped loving me and he didn't want to talk to me again. I still feel hurt, but I feel like he still cared for me at least back in March when I saw him. But a month later he basically telling me he lost feelings for me? I don't know if he was just mad or if he truly meant it. I also told him I still loved him, but he said he was confused and I don't know if he was hates me or if he still at least cares as a friend, but we haven't talked to each other since April. When I asked him if we should never talk again he said I don't know. So I truly don't know what he feels or is thinking. I also called him a few days before my birthday and he didn't even bother answering. So I just kinda assume he hates me. Even though we have no contact anymore I don't know if he hates me cuz he still hasn't deleted me off facebook or anything. Regardless I feel like I want to write a letter to him, but he has a new girlfriend now who is not very attractive. I really am not trying to be mean because I think she probably has a good personality, but its only been like 3 months and now he has a new girlfriend and she really doesn't look like the type of girl he use to date. I think my problem is I have too many unanswered questions. I still care about him as a friend, but I guess I just wanna know if he still cares about me at all. I don't think I will talk to him unless he breaks up with this girl because I don't want to get involved in their relationship. If he ever breaks up with her should I write an apology letter? I don't want to because of my pride, but at the same time I do want answers and I miss him as a friend. I still have feelings for him, but I don't want to get back together with him I guess I'm just feeling guilty for everything and I don't know if he is dating her because he is lonely and because I probably hurt his pride? So my questions are should I ever write an apology letter? Do you think he at least still cares about me as a friend? Did I hurt him so much that he is dating someone as a rebound?
Philosoraptor Posted August 19, 2013 Posted August 19, 2013 So my questions are should I ever write an apology letter? I don't believe so, and I believe you should delete him from facebook yourself as you a clearly disturbed by his life. Do you think he at least still cares about me as a friend? Maybe, but until you lose all of your feelings greater than friendship it wouldn't be very benefitial for you to puruse any sort of contact with him. Did I hurt him so much that he is dating someone as a rebound? It doesn't look to be the case. He may be rebounding, he may truly be over you. Regardless he is in control of his own choices and emotions, the same as you are. Right now you'd be best to remove contact from him until you are moved on yourself.
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