hopelesswandererr Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 My life is confusing, but I think it's only because I make it that way. I'm dating this guy (almost 2 years) and am going away to college in a week, while he stays at the community college at home. We will only be about two hours away. I personally, am the type of person that likes to have a faithful relationship with someone, but doesn't want it to last my whole life. I dont initially plan on getting married or having kids, but I do plan on dating someone. I hate the thought of having to be committed to one person for your life, which is why I am fully committed to whoever I'm dating for the amount of time we are together. HOWEVER my current boyfriend is kind, gentle, and cares about me, but I could never see us lasting forever because he doesn't really listen to everything I say, and never wants to talk about the future. I'm going to college and I told him basically everything I just said, and tried to break up with him, but he says that he loves me and we'll just see what happens. And then I ask him about the future, and again,"we'll just see what happens". GAHH. I do love him, and I will try the whole long distance thing, but honestly, it doesnt make a whole lot of sense to invest all of my time in someone I don't plan on spending my life with, and doesnt seem like he wants to either. Sometimes I feel like he doesnt want to break up with me because im "his", and he is too jealous to ever let me move on to someone else, because he knows I will. I put school first and plan to have a great career, while he is a year older in community college and still doesnt know what he wants to do or where hes going to go after comm. college is over. I love him very much, but how long can I really play it off that we are going to break up eventually. I also worry about him cheating with me all the time because he never talk about how he is feeling or what he is doing. I dont question him a lot because I should trust him its just hard. Anyways, opinions?
Faith13/2 Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 You just got done saying you don't plan on staying with just one person for the rest of your life. You also said you don't see yourself getting married. I feel that you can't tell him something like that and then expect him to have an answer to "the future." Just makes no sense to me seeings how you don't see a long-term future yourself. As him being jealous I'm not exactly sure how to comment on that with your views being what they are. I mean your practically telling the man you're good for now, but I won't marry you, I don't want a future with you, and we won't be together for the rest of our lives. Honestly think you're going to have to find someone with the same views as you to make a relationship work. One more thing, when you find "the right guy," I have a feeling your mind about marriage and long-term with just one person will change. Good Luck! Sorry I couldn't be more help. 1
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