Locust Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 I’m a 27 year old senior in college full time with two semesters to go and all my life in college I seen couples together, and it’s been a speculation of mines is it possible. I had always been a little insecure about myself until I met a European woman in a chat room who told me I was handsome and gave me a confidence booster. The at home concept I never had problems because I never attempt to ask any girls out, but I’m afraid once they discover at home things might change. Because of my major lack of experience in dating, I’m sometime think to myself what could I offer a woman if I were to get into a relationship. Women I have as friends say I’m a great person, funny and smart and I get question why I don’t have a girlfriend? My response is I don’t know. Deep inside I do know and I’m afraid of making a fool of myself. I’m nervous asking women out and afraid of be turned down. I’m thinking if I tried to ask that woman out I will be the guy she goes and tell her girlfriends I had some guy asking me out. I’m also afraid I might come off as a creepy even though I did not mean it. Even I were to ask a woman out I don’t know how to be direct about it, to let her know I want a date and not a casual hangout like what has been happening. This happen to me once. My dress style well I have been told that dress like what a typical Italian guy would dress which I found a bit surprising. I guess that is good, good to be different.
white Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 What uh, what's the question here? Seems to me it it isn't "how do I sack up and ask for dates", which is just so tired here, so tired a topic and so simple, we'll spend no more time on it, but the more interesting question of "how do I feel like I have something to offer". Everyone has something to offer. It's called their personality. Some peoples are manipulative, selfish, even outright cruel (I've known people who should've had the title 'Darth'). I suspect you're not one of those. If you have a sense of humour, if you are capable of kindness and generosity, if you genuinely want to spend time with people, then you have something to offer in a relationship. Yes OK, maybe your lack of experience means you start off green, you don't invest yourself as much as you should, you don't show your quality at the proper times in the proper ways, you miss your cues. But you'll have the will, the desire to learn to do that, for your partner, to learn how to be in a relationship, if they have just a little patience to give you the time and the communication to do so - which they will if they have that humour and kindness, not selfishness and cruelty. You're an individual that is the sum total of a long string of experiences going back to your birth. That's shaped you into a unique person. You can take that uniqueness into the world and someone will always appreciate it. The fact you even want to ask a question like this, that you're aware it's a question to ask, is a positive sign. Surprisingly few people ever even think to wonder it, they just take from others, never looking inward. And surprisingly many tolerate it.
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