maverick87 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 Hi Everyone, I would appreciate your suggestions on my current situation. So, i approached this girl on Facebook as she is in my office campus. I enquired her name and sent her a message. initially, i was bombarded with something called girl's attitude but then everything became good. We started roaming and dating each other. She told me that she broke off recently because her BF used to abuse her, abuse her family, used to force her to not to talk to her friends , etc etc. And she used to feel bad , used to cry everyday. Her BF is at a distant place. So we spent almost 3 beautiful months together, hugged, kissed each other , went to many places and she even told about this to her parents as well. But, now her EX has started coming in between. he is pleading, feeling sorry, crying and doing every bit to get her back. Now , the girl is confused !! She spend one day with me and next day with him (as he is in the city for few days) and i feel a burning sensation inside me. Pls guide me how to deal with this situation? I really love her
Faith13/2 Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 When it comes to abusive situations sometimes people get quite vulnerable, especially when it comes to the "abuser." Sad, but true. This girl has to want better for herself, before she can move on and give herself fully to someone else. Chances are this "little boy"(as I will refer to him, because if he is everything you say, does not deserve the term man or even guy in my eyes) knows her weaknesses and knows exactly what to say to make her believe things will be better and/or maybe he has even changed. The most I think you can do is remind her of all the things she has told you about him and their relationship, and hope she comes to her own senses. I wish you luck, but sometimes people are just to blind to see what they're doing.
HumptyDumpty Posted August 16, 2013 Posted August 16, 2013 I guess you already are aware of the answers to be expected here? This girl is slipping away right before your eyes! I agree with the first poster- she's not ready to be in a relationship since she didn't take the time to move on properly! Now there she is falling for him again whereas he is manipulating her! he knows she would jump right back in! Now, concerning you: she needs to make a decision and quick! Him or you! I guess that even this answer is clear, she'll choose him since she loves him so much! There's not a lot you can do sadly and I feel sorry for you since unluckily you stumbled across an emotional unavailable girl Sadly, you have to confront her about this, that she needs to make a choice! Expect those answers and move on the best you can! You can be there to help here but people sadly only can help themselves in relationships! Confront her about this manipulative boyfriend! Show her how he is abusing her! That there is help for her to get away from him and that she can learn to move on and live a normal live again! But that's all you can do! Talk with her, confront her with the mess and cut your losses & move on! Good luck, you're not alone
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